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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for more than a year now, and I really believe we are in love. However, lately, he has been neglecting to call me much and when he does, he's usually watching TV or doing something online and barely pays attention. So a lot of the time I think that we're growing apart. But whenever I'm with him, I couldn't feel that way, because of this love I believe we share. I've talked to him about it, but he always apologises and makes excuses.I'm a senior and am in the Marching Band at my school and lately at practice and competitions I've been hanging out with this guy, lets call him BOB, for whom I have honestly had a little attraction to. I am pretty much sure that he feels the same way a little bit, but he's a nice guy and would probably not act on anything knowing that I'm in a relationship.I believe I'm still in love with my boyfriend, and I believe he's in love with me, at least when we're together, but things have been a little sour otherwise lately and I don't know what to do about BOB. ANY advice or similar stories would be appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, CNKlives +, writes (17 September 2008):
Well, sounds like you have left the honeymoon stage, the beginning of a relationship that is all perfect and fluffy. He is a man, he watches TV, he can't talk and watch TV at the same time. I am sure he isn't doing this on purpose. If you started dating BOB the honeymoon stage would eventually end as well...If you still love him and he still loves you, stick with it and try and talk to him when he isn't doing something else. Sounds to me like you have a good relationship.. good luck.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (17 September 2008):
If you are attracted to other men then you are not in love, you are just in a relationship. You care about your boyfriend and get on well with him but as soon as you are out of sight you are out of his mind.
if your boyfriend is doing other things while on the phone then just say "ok you are busy, call me back when you want to talk" and hang up.
Think about if you really love him or if you have just been with him so long you can't imagine being without him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, baybeegurl_x +, writes (17 September 2008):
 i've been in the same situation, kinda! last year when i was with my ex he broke up with me for about a month because he felt he didn't love me anymore, and obviously i was devastated, but he then said sorry and that he does love me! so i was like yeah greaaat! but things weren't the same, he didn't call, he wouldn't come to see me anymore, and i too did feel as though we were growing apart a bit. and then the school year started after summer and i got really close to this lad who i never would of dreamed of falling in love with, but it's the truth i did fall in love with him and i felt horrible for my ex whom i was with at the time because i was so confused of what to do and who it was i really wanted to be with. in the end i realised my relationship at the time with my ex couldn't of been all that great if i could easily fall in love with another lad, so now i'm with the other lad and things are good :) it's just a case of waiting it out and seeing if your feelings get stronger for this other guy you like and see if things change between you and your boyfriend, it is hard but in the end you will make the right choice!x
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reader, Miss.Know-it-all +, writes (17 September 2008):
Hello,
I See That You Have felt ignored,so i advise you to sit down one evening and really tell him evertything going wrong.If he doesn't listen , he isn't the ONE.You Mentioned
that you liked 'Bob' so give it a go if it doesn't work out with your boyfriend.But REMEMBER TO TAKE THINGS SLOW AT FIRST.
Good Luck
Ox.
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