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writes: I have a problem that's really getting on my nerves.Me and my boyfriend have just recently lost our virginity to each other, and have been having sex a lot... A LOT! since that time. The only thing is, we're both (obviously) quite inexperienced, and it's getting annoying, the way he never has foreplay with me - as much as I try and encourage it.Also, he's completely addicted to missionary postition. It's annoying, because I feel like I'm just lying there with my legs open and not doing anything. I have energy, and want to be more active.However, he just won't move from missionary. It's because he's on top, so I can't really move. Especially when he's pushing my legs towards my bust.We've talked about trying new positions, but just end up laughing or failing when we do try. It's not sexual at all.What can I do? Sex is just boring now.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 Tell your b/f , you want to play a game .In the bedroom , you will play the role of a man and he will play the role of a woman, a role reversal for a change and enjoy the fun. Tell him , you are going to rape him..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): Talk to each other about it and even get some books on the subject. Try looking at the Kama Sutra, or even the Perfumed Garden. Dont take it too seriously and enjoy each moment. Its not a serious subject so dont get hung up on it, enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): You are a bit young for this activity, but you're active, so . . . I think the problem here is almost total lack of experience, especially on his part. A sex life is a never-ending exploration in both sensuality and, ideally, true love. It needs to be adventurous, however, and I think your boyfriend is like most men. He has discovered what works for him - just stick it in and get off - and that's good enough for him. Obviously, you would prefer to explore the depths of womanhood and sexuality, and it's unlikely to happen with this fellow.
Like most women, unfortunately, you may end up married to the typical husband who becomes a couch potato, drinks too much beer and cares only about his own needs.
Read a book by Sallie Tisdale titled "Talk Dirty To Me," (possibly in a local library) then find a man who seems to understand women and themselves.
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (20 January 2008):
Sorry, why dont you try to watch like a porno or something educational??? there are many sex videos out there, you could both learn something! or try to push him down next time before he climbs on top! You cannot put the blame souly on him. Work with him and if all the both of you can do is laugh then maybe your to young to be doing what your doing with eachother.
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 Well the fun part of sex is being adventurous, its a way of finding out likes and dislikes. You need to talk to your b/f and explain you would like to experiment,one position continually would get very tedious and could end up with you making excuses to avoid sex, which will affect your relationship. Communication is what it is all about and foreplay is important too. Have fun.
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reader, earsopen +, writes (20 January 2008):
 The two of you are still young and if you can not talk openly about sex without laughing then maybe your not ready.
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