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writes: Im 15 and I've had a thing for this guy I know for ages and a friend recently said that it was pretty obvious that he likes me. Me and this guy are friends and when we are together we get on really well but it has never gone past just having a laugh once or twice. Although we get on really well there are a few things that are stopping me taking the plunge. A) im a really shy person and find it hard to talk to people I don't know well. As me and him have no mutual friends and aret really close friends I don't know what to do as I'm really lacking in confidence B) I think he is out of my league, I'm quite quiet and not really popular etc while he is. I'm worried if he turns me down then other people will make a really big deal over it C) this is probably the biggest. A couple of months ago someone told him I liked him and when people confronted me I denied it. He wouldn't talk to me for ages and even now it's notthe same. I wonder if he will bare this in mind if I ask him out. What should I do to overcome these things ? Also how can I get closer to him and maybe turn it into something more than friendship without being to aggressive e.g asking him out directly ? Any other advice about my situation would be more than welcome :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): i dont have much advice in this area but just want to say dont consider anyone as out of your league, if you like someone or they like you that is what counts, attraction is attraction and doesnt consider leagues, go for what you like and im sure he doesnt think he's out of your league
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reader, Q-bag  +, writes (14 April 2011):
You should start to flirt with him some. Try to get to the stage in the friendship when you can playfully hold his hand/s and go with it. If the opportunity arises, try a little more physical contact eg playful wrestling, piggy back etc. Things like this will show him that you are interested, and if he gets the message, he may ask you out. If not, you may have to ask him. Remember, if there is ever a time that seems perfect for an 'accidental' kiss or if he is giving you signs (Looking at your lips, smiling and getting close) don't be afraid to go for it because it will definitely start a relationship. Hope I helped!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): Well judging by what youve said i think that if he may like you too.Im shy around guys as well and i find it easier to date close friends rather than the hot guy that doesnt know i exist.I would take a chance and just ask him and if he turns u down(which i doubt) and people make fun of you,its okay to say "fuck you" sweetie :) who gives a damn about what other people think or say,those people arent of any worth to you :/ theyre just a bunch of childish,immature highschoolers who have nothing better to do than to meddle in other people's affairs.Bottom line,whatever goes on between the two of you is your biz not theirs and one day u should tell them that :)
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