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*ollyHeartbreak
writes:Hi,Well last August I met this really amazing guy...well I thought he was. And it was a few weeks later he told me he liked me. Anyway, in September we decided to meet up and we kissed which was my first ever kiss. He asked me out and I said yes. We were together for a month. But he was my first everything nearly.He dumped me for another girl in the end. Which,I guess really hurt the most because he lied to me aswell saying he was losing his mates because of me. But two days later he went out with some other girl who I don't think liked him anyway but still managed to split us both up.He resorted me to cutting myself at one point he was so horrible to me after that. I suffer from severe depression as it is so he didn't really help. I took so much time off school I was so upset and devastated. I couldn't face the humilation of telling everyone Id been dumped. I was scared people would say "Oh pull yourself together" aswell. But he meant a lot to me this guy. He was my first proper boyfriend I'd had.Since then, we haven't really spoke like friends properly, we've got back toegther twice but it hasn't really worked out because he's dumped me for lame excuses like I was "too clingy" was one of them.But last month he came up to my house and we ended up kissing. He still liked me and I still really liked him.We were thinking of getting back together recentley,but earlier on he said it hasn't worked out in the past so there's no point.But he kept saying he wanted to be with me and stuff and that if he was to get a gf I'd be his gf but about an hour later he turned round and said we weren't right for each other, but his other ex *the one I got dumped for* doesn't really like me too much and they're really good friends still and he just listens to everything she says so I get the impression she told him we weren't right for each other.It just really hit me hard. And I snapped at him so we're not even friends any more. We walked out of each other's lives I was just so upset and angry. And in all honesty, I still am.Though I can't get over him. He's actually put me through quite a lot but I still really like him. I like other guys but I know I don't stand a chance with any of them. I thought I still had a chance with my ex. Please help! I don't know what to do about it any more. I feel really saddened by the situation and I just feel down about it all the time.Have I done the right thing by cutting him out of my life completley? How do I get over him because I really want to start getting introduced to new guys?Please help me.Thank you for reading.
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reader, HollyHeartbreak +, writes (14 February 2009):
HollyHeartbreak is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for all your help :)
Its much appreciated.
Thank you so much.
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reader, HollyHeartbreak +, writes (14 February 2009):
HollyHeartbreak is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your help :)Its much appreciated.Thank you so much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): my lovely beautiful girl,dear friend ,ive gone through and infact going through almost the same thing..and all i can advice you is THERE ARE WAY BETTER GUYS WHO WANT YOU and DESERVE YOU!!my guy didnt dump me for SOME OTHER GIRL...lets face the truth honey,this guy might be a cool dude or cute or whatever,but he is a playboy,HE IS NOT SERIOUS ABOUT YOU,he loved you at one time for his selfish reasons,he didnt love you to make you feel loved and nor has he tried to understand your pain..a sweet soul like you deserves a great man who is serious about you..TRUST ME,you feel this way because he was your 1st ever bf!!just think of him as your stepping stone to the world of love and adult life..u should learn from this relationship,when to love and when to tease him and play hard to get without being a mean,bitchy gf!concentrate on your self..be more selfish and treat yourself...improve your other skills,build a stronger you,get more friends,STOP THINKING YOU ARE A UNDERDOG AND TRY TO PROVE THE WORLD YOU ARE SOMETHING SPECIAL!!but be yourself...ALL THE BEST LUV!!muah!!
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reader, English chick!  +, writes (14 February 2009):
 I'm still a little sad over my first b/f to be honest. He was great but did the same as yours, but it was with my best mate. I didn't go as severe as cutting myself, which i suggest you really shouldn't do, but I had very bad anger control, i remember getting suspended for a long time for beating him up in one of my mood swings =)But I got over it because it was really screwing my up, try to think about other things, if you still like him I guess you'll have to try someone elses advice.Forget and forget.=)
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (14 February 2009):
 You have certainly done the right thing, especially if he was not straightforward and honest about why he wanted to end the relationship.Be single for a while so you don't just settle on a guy because you feel lonely now. Confide in some girl friends for now and once you are ready there may be an excellent guy in your future.lovelynightmare
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): My young and beautiful soul you are so young. There are three things my father said that was important before having a boyfriend 1)school 2) job 3) more education Honey it sounds like all he wants you for is sex and don't let him use you up because trust me it's someone out there for everyone and you don't have to subject yourself to that hope you find the will power to leave him alone
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