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writes:My boyfriend has slept with 71 girls. And i have slept with only 2 boys. We have together for nearly 6 months and we feel we are ready to sleep together. However Im scared at the fact he has slept with 71 girls and way more experienced than me and he is 10.5 inches!!! Im no he will hurt me and ive never bled during sex before which makes him think there will be a lot of blood. Is this true and how can he fit inside me without causing to much pain?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2009): Bullsh*t, he's lying. And you shouldn't be having sex at 16-17 anyway. Keep your pants on and get a hobby, and tell the compulsive liar boy to buzz off.
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reader, theboythatcriedhotgirlfriend +, writes (26 August 2009):
 Well #72, i think he knows he needs stroke soft and be gentle. What you shud be worried bout is tht you might become a statistic and merely pave the way for #73. Sorry but i gotta b real. Look on the bright side, hes probably lying. However that might mean hes lying bout hes size too in which case the problem might not b whether u feel pain it'll be whether theres anything to feel. sorry for being so blunt but I I strongly advise against this. Either hes a liar or womanizer
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2009): I'll bet he's not lying. Young guys who have really slept with 6 girls lie about sleeping with 14. But most guys know that saying a number like 71 is more likely to cost them girls than gain them any. Same with penis size. Guys who are 5" will lie about being 8" but not many guys would claim to be 10.5" if they weren't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): Oh please, if he's a teenager, while he may have slept with a few girls, it sounds as if he's lying big-time. And he's most likely lying about his penis size, too. In fact, he sounds like the least trustworthy person around, and perhaps based on that information, you should keep your pants up in his presence.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): Sluts are so promiscuous because the rest of us don't ever make it cost them anything.
If you don't like the idea that you're following 71 girls (and you're a teenager!) then don't sleep with him. It's that simple.
Please don't fall for any of that "it's in his past and thats not who he is now" bullshit. You're kids. I doubt your BF has even had the time to form any decent opinions about sex and relationships, let alone grow & change them. The guy that screwed 71 other girls is the same guy you're considering screwing now.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 How old is he? And as he's had sex with 71 girls, he should know by now how to be gentle. He should know about making sure that you are lubricated and aroused and ready for penetration. Why would he think there will be a lot of blood? Has that happened to one of his previous sexual partners?
I think some more discussion is in order before you proceed, and much more important, as kc100 points out, is that he needs to be checked for STDs. I think the research shows that 1 in 4 teenage girls get an STD, and so his odds of having been exposed to HPV, or Chlamydia, or other infections is much higher than yours, having had 2 sexual partners. You do NOT want to contract something which could impact your future health or your ability to have children later on in life.
Once he's been tested (and you might as well do it too), then proceed very very slowly and stop if you feel a great deal of pain. Pain is your body's way of telling you something is wrong, so pay attention.
Take care!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Make sure he gets a STD test before he goes anywhere near you! The chances are if he has slept with that many women that not all times were protected, so he really does need to get tested before you sleep together. The test is pretty easy and can be done at a number of places - hospitals, doctors and special clinics all offer this service. Google sexual health NHS and that will show you the nearest clinics in the area.
If you have never bled before then the chances are you wont bleed now - blood during sex comes from the Hymen breaking and this only happens once, so if you have had sex before your hymen will be broken already so dont worry about that. There may be a tiny amount of blood seen as he is quite large but that should only happen a couple of times. Yes it will probably hurt a little and you will be sore afterwards but the more you have sex with him the more you will "expand" and it will feel more comfortable over time.
Make sure you are in positions where he doesnt go too deep (that rules out you on top and doggy style). Spooning with him entering you from behind might work - this way the penis doesnt go so deep inside.
Other than that make sure you are really turned on or use some lube, it will hurt a lot more if you are not wet enough! Apart from that there is not a lot you can do! Just make sure you are relaxed, that he goes slowly and he is gentle. I once dated a guy when I was 17 and he was pretty big, and the first few times we tried it was just too painful and it wouldnt even go in! But eventually we got there in the end, so I think you just need to be patient and relax!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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