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writes:I don't know what I want.I might sound a bit greedy. I love my boyfriend dearly, and I really want to start living with him. He lives 2 hrs drive away from me. We both have a career where we live; I'm running a family business and he's running his own business. Financially, he can support me even if I don't have to work. However, I don't like the idea of relying on him finanically (he makes more than me right now). I can't be a stay at home person. My family will not be impressed with me leaving the family business. We've been driving back and forth every weekend to spend time together. I don't know how much longer until we think it's ridiculous to do so. We've been dating for 3 years and I'm not discussing with him about living together or getting married because I don't know what we can do with the career arrangement. How can I work this out?(we talked about buying a place in between the 2 cities, but then we'll both suffer from the crazy drive everyday. I can see it'll be a disaster at the end). Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 This is a tough one and both of you seem very career driven and successful so congratulations on that! I am all for women being their own boss and supporting themselves, I do this! However, there is a big difference in building your business on your own from the ground up and entering into a family business. He shouldn't have to give this up. No Way. The security of working for your family is something you may have to give up and find a career where he is on your own, not the other way around. I would say this if the situation were reversed. He's done it on his own, taken the risk and liability and made something happen. You haven't done this.
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