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writes:Hi, I'm a 14 year old guy and I think I've been masturbating for 3-4 years now. Yeah I enjoy it and it really feels good, but after I masturbate I'm always, always not in the mood any more, I would think that I'd be able to savour the moment after my climax.. but instead I end up feeling guilty afterwards - I don't know why.Is this normal??? I'm also worried that the first time I have sex it'll be the same...(and don't tell me that I'm too young to have sex, because I already know).thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): Well there's two things going on here:
Firstly, most men don't feel in the mood right after they orgasm. There's a period of "down - time" when you don't feel sexual at all (a lot of women actually complain about this when it comes to cuddling after - but that's another story).
It'll take you a while to get aroused again, before you can masturbate again.
Secondly, you mention that you feel guilty. Why? You said that you enjoy it and have been doing it for a few years, so what exactly is troubling you?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Yes, your reaction is perfectly normal, even including a kind of guilty or shameful feeling afterwards. Even as a much older man today, I first strongly resist the urge, simply because I have always believed that sexual gratification should be attained during sexual activity with a woman. Depending upon a young man's upbringing, it may naturally feel somewhat degrading to relieve one's sexual tension otherwise, especially with self-attention.
The truth, I believe, is that it is sometimes necessary, especially in youth. The risks with heterosexual activities are great, and the ramifications potentially life-changing. Even as we age, I think most men and women occasionally release their sexual tensions in such a way. It is physiologically healthy to masturbate on occasion as well, and during youth, probably teaches a great deal about one's personal sexuality. In my opinion, you should shed any serious guilt or shame about it. Just about everyone does it. When you come of age, and you are also willing to play safe and responsibly, you may begin to actually enjoy making love to a young woman whom you adore.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (26 February 2009):
 Well, I'm not a guy, but you could just be bored with masturbation and that's why you aren't enjoying much about it after. It does get pretty routine, and since you don't have the stimulation of another person, your mind is probably reacting with as much excitement as when you brush your teeth.
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