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writes:Im nearly 16, and have never had a boyfriend.Is that strange?I'm really sick of waiting for someone to come along!Im good looking and have a nice personality, and people are always asking me "Why dont you have a boyfriend?" which makes me feel even worse!I dont really know many decent guys, who i would contemplate dating..but im not so good with meeting new people either, as im shy.Any suggestions?Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2008): Hey, it's not strange, I know I'm only 14 but I have never had a boyfriend either (and I don't see myself having one when I'm 16 lol), and people always go 'aww why' it get's on my nerves as well, but I just think maybe it's a good thing, so when someone actually comes along, it'll be something special and not just a few month thing.
However, if you really want to meet someone, why don't you go out with your friends, you may meet someone that way, you just have to go out and see what happens.
But you should try to be happy without one, have fun with friends and family and then you never know, you may meet someone along the way
Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): You're not strange at all hunny. We get a lot of girls your age asking if they are "strange" because they've never had a boyfriend.
Don't panic. You've got plenty of time. I got my fisrt boyfriend when I was nearly 17. It's great that you've waited to go out with someone you like rather than just going out with any old guy just for tha sake of it.
If you have a few friends you're comfortable with, then that's great. Try and think of new activities you can do together where you could meet new people. I met my first boyfriend when I started going to drama class.. For example. You should feel more comfortable with your friends there and will make new friends and possible boyfriends together.
Good Luck. x
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reader, bfire  +, writes (27 June 2008):
You're still young, and an attractive female right?I am nearly 23 and considered an attractive male, maybe only for the next 3 years tough right? lol, and haven't had a real girlfriend, or well any serious relationship in my life. The last girlfriend I had was when I was 17, it was about 2 weeks, and obviously didn't really go anywhere. Before that it was when I was 15, lasted a year, really liked her but I was so young that I had no idea what was really going on, and again basically we were just friends. So now at 23 years old I want an actual relationship. I definitely know how you feel, people always tell me "why don't you have a girlfriend?" I guess, I mean there are plenty of girls that I find attractive, but none that are single and that I just 'click' with I guess. Plus I am also really shy and have to learn how to get over that a bit.Beating yourself up over it won't help. 16 is really young to even really consider wanting a relationship really, or so I think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): Hi, I was 31 when I had my first boyfriend so I wouldn't worry yourself about being nearly 16. Speaking from my own experience I spent years beating myself up about not being "normal" and that there must be something strange about me. I waited all those years to meet someone and then when it happened, it was no great thing - I had built it up in my mind that it was going to be wonderful, but people are people with the same problems as everyone else. I was expecting a bronzed god and got just an ordinary guy!
However, in the time I didn't have a boyfriend, I learnt so much about myself and enjoyed doing things for me and mixing with my friends. I am glad that I did this, although I couldn't see it at the time, because that is what has made me a really strong confident person - I am happy with who I am whether I have a boyfriend or not and this is what is important. I'm sure lots of your friends all go to pieces if their boyfriends leave them and at such a young age, it can have a huge effect on you in later life. I appreciate that you cannot see into the future but believe me, build yourself up strong first, know what you want and then, when you have finished your education, you will meet all kinds of nice like-minded guys in your career.
Don't rush into having a boyfriend, you have the rest of your life to do that, at the moment concentrate on your grades and getting a good solid future for yourself first, the rest will come naturally. And, guys always like clever girls anyway.....
Good luck xx
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reader, LaydeeOfSorrows +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Wait until you like someone, then go after them. Instead of waiting around, maybe get an after school job, or meet new people through friends. Since your shy, i think if you keep talking to people, you'll eventually get better with people, and meet someone.
Try not to stress about it too much, because that never helps anything!
Good luck!
xx
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (27 June 2008):
No, thats not odd at all. You are still young, I didn't have my first Girlfriend till I was 18, I know some girls that didn't have a boyfriend till they were 20. Don't try to date just because everyone else is doing it, it will just cause more problems then anything else. Date somebody because you want to. Besides high school flings typically don't last. Just be yourself and don't worry so much about geting a boyfriend and some guy will come along and sweep you off your feet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2008): u dun hve boyfriend...buttt
don't tell me,
u never been in love!
admire or smething!?cursing!?
if u hve crush on smeone~
den...u noe wat 2 do!(^_^)
-poor in english-
*-4rm brunei-*
-sorry-
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