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writes: I have been in a long distant relationship with my current boyfriend for 2 years. I am preparing to move to Florida with him within the next couple of months to begin our new life together. I broke up with my ex-boyfriend from 15 years ago, because I got pregnant he wanted the child and I didn't. I got an abortion and cut him out of my life completely. I ran into him about a month ago and we both expressed our pain about my decision he has forgiven me. The problem is that he and I recently were intimate together and all of the old feelings we had for one another are resurfacing. I haven't told my current boyfriend about the affair, and my ex is hinting that he doesnt want me to relocate. While I love my current boyfriend my ex boyfriend is the man that makes me feel alive....Please Help me with my dilemma.
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reader, alice pine  +, writes (30 October 2007):
o man. you sure did get into summin here. now why did you cheat. boys are cheaters!!! don't give us the bad rep lol. i'm kidding, now who are you happy with? its as simple as that. you and the ex have a strong bond cuz the child, but who makes you happy. don't worry about who you're hurting. this is for you. think about it. and if you pick Florida, are you gonna tell him? if you do will he stay? i reccomend the secret. wat happened in Vegas stays in Vegas. understand. but can you live with that lie? but about choosing... jus pick who keeps you smiling
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reader, Karlos Omnis  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 It is unfair to go to Florida with your current boyfriend if your heart is not with him 100%.
Turn the tables, how would you like it if someone didn't want to be with you with all their heart?
I've always been a strong believer that if you truly love someone that you wouldn't be able to cause someone so much pain by abusing their trust and cheating on them.
You owe it to yourself and your boyfriend to tell your him everything and leave it in his his hands to make a decision on what to do going forward.
You made the decision to perform such an action, now you need to act up and deal with the consequences. You can;t toy with people's emotions like this.
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