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writes:Help !!! I have Been lesbian since i remember but the problem is that nobody knows just a friend but i dont now how to tell My parents im afraid they are going to judge me and the thing is that i have to fake that i like guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2012): Thanks guys i really apreciate your advices i will tell them as soon as possible and i hope they support me :) thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 December 2012):
 would you have to tell them if you were straight?
I can't wait for the day that everyone accepts everyone else no matter what.
I hate that whole "coming out" kind of thing... like it's magical because you are gay.
Are your parents very very religious and will take it badly? or are they homophobic?
or are you just expecting them to be disappointed?
it will be sad for them at first but as long as they are not homophobic or use religion as a reason to not accept your god-given orientation, they will adapt.
I know that when my brother figured it out he was about 14/15 years old... he told me. NO one else. I kept that secret till he told our mom at about age 18... we kept that secret until he was about 21 and mom told dad... and dad had a bit of a hard time with it....
Now my father loves my brother's husband...
is there a NEED for you to tell your parents now?
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 December 2012):
Do you live in an area where being a lesbian is socially acceptable? Are your parents openly homophobic? Are they religious? Etc.I would just tell them in a simple, no nonsense way that lets them know that this is not a phase, you're not experimenting, you've known this for awhile but you didn't know how to tell them because you were afraid of how they'd react, etc.Make sure you understand that this can be a big deal for some parents. Even those who are tolerant of it may be disappointed because they had hopes for a wedding and grandkids, etc. So allow them time to "grieve" without freaking out on them.I'm saying that as a parent of two young girls. In no way whatsoever do I have a problem with lesbians. However it would be difficult to find out that my kids were gay. I'd love them and accept them and be happy that they felt that they could come out to me, but I guess I'd just be worried that they would suffer discrimination or not be able to have the life they want, such as marriage and their own kids.Also one thing: if you live in an area where being gay is not socially acceptable you need to remember that you have many options for places to live that are more tolerant. You can feel welcome to be yourself in Seattle, Atlanta, San Fran, NY, etc. There are many places that people, even if they think it's wrong, will not bother you about your sexual orientation because the community as a whole has decided that it's acceptable behavior. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2012): You should never be ashamed of revealing who you really are if that makes you happy. People around us always judge us on what we do as well as qhat we don't do. Gather some couage and tell your family about who you really are. And however they react depends on them. For you it will be one burden off.
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reader, _crystalxo  +, writes (26 December 2012):
tell them.its even worst that you have to fake liking guys, you should not have to fake anything. they will figure out later on in your life which will be more of a shock because you faked it for so long. you never know what will happen until you try. at least after you try and it fails, it will be completely off of your chest. and who knows , they may accept it. Good luck!
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