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anonymous
writes:my bf and i had been going out for about 6 months last year. i had told my parents, it being my first relationship and me being close with them. they were overbearing, very traditional and too controlling that there were lots of arguments and it made it so difficult to actually be with him. i had to lie if i had to go out alone with him because they kept saying how school was a priority and i was only allowed to date once i was out of high schoool (which to me sounds a bit much) the thing is i still kept really good grades but they didnt like the fact that i was going out with anyone at all. at the end of our relationship he really hurt me by sneakily going out with one of my friends. it has been almost a year now, and trust me i have learnt from that experience. we are now back together, but only because i really believe that he has changed, as do all his and my friends. he tried really hard to get back into my life and from that i feel like he deserves a second chance. our relationship is much better than it was before and he was also the one to say 'i love you' and makes the effort into our relationship. but because of what had happened before, i feel like i can't tell my parents about him. they know that hes changed and that we are friends now. on one hand i want to tell them because i dont want to lie, and i dont want my bf to feel like hes not good enough. and on the other hand i want to keep it secret because i feel that once they know they'll try anything to stop me from being with him as they did before. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Sorry but as long as you are living under your parent's roof you have to abide by their rules. Sometimes parents can be unreasonable but they rule the roost until you are grown and gone. Keeping something secret and sneaking around behind their backs will end up biting you in the butt. Keep the communication open with them if they see you are acting responsibly (i.e. NOT SNEAKING AROUND) and also keeping up your grades they may decide you can date the guy.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (1 June 2009):
 Discuss this with your boyfriend, tell him why you don't want to tell your parents. I would keep this to yourself, your parents don't need to know everything. X
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