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writes:Okay so my boyfriend doesn't like to be very spontaneous or do exhilirating things I like to do... such as riding rollercoasters, ice skating, carnivals, etc. And I've grown up with all of these things as a big part of my life, and they matter to me; I've bonded with my family by riding rollercoasters and being random. But my bf won't budge!! Is it silly to get peeved about this?I'm just afraid that down the road, we (or mainly I) will get sick of the same ol' same ol'. Suggestions?~Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 January 2013):
 I'll add to SVC's excellent advice ( find like minded friends to do the stuff you like with ) another :
Look for something new that you and your bf can start fresh doing together , ( so neither carnival rides nor his same old same old. ) It does not need to be an overwhelming passion for both , just something that sounds sort of fun and that's a new thing for both, so it can become YOUR thing together. Ballroom dancing ? horseback riding ? making videos ? ...the list is virtually endless, there must be something that you can do or learn together without one boring the other to death !
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 January 2013):
 then you do what I do and find friends to do them with.
I love going to museums. My hubby hates it... I just go with other friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I don't mind that we don't do things together all the time, but in the future I don't want to make it a plan to do things all by myself. Ya know?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (30 December 2012):
Is it silly getting peeved at your bf who dislikes rollercoasters ?
Yes and not. Meaning, yes it's silly , he likes what he likes and it's not his fault if carnival rides aren't it. I am like him, :) , I HATE rollercoasters, and carnival and theme parks , suppose I wanted to make friends with you, with all good will I could not, but there's nothing to get peeved, people have the right to have different interests, different likes and dislikes.
You are right to be concerned, though, if these things really matter a lot to you , and most of all, if you feel the need to SHARE them with your SO. If you yearn to share your true passions with somebody, and you know that this somebody will never be your SO , it may be quite a downer .
Then again, people do not HAVE to share everything, they can give each other space and time to pursue their mutual interests . One can go to the carnival,( with your kids perhaps ?: ) and the other stay home watching in peace a documentary on Discovery Channel....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 December 2012):
 It's not silly. Some people feel opposite attractions work best, some insist that they are more alike. This is for you to find out.
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