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writes:Okay, my situation may seem a bit wierd but i need some help. I am in a three-way relationship with two women, Tara and Sophie. We are all lesbians and we are all involved with each other intentionally. We have had sex together numerous times over our 2 year long relationship with each other. Recently, Sophie said she would like to add another woman to the relationship. We have talked about this as a group of three and Tara has said she would like to try it and see how it goes first. I don't know what to say! Part of me likes the idea of having a relationship with three other women who are all open for a sexual and emotional relationship together, but a small part of me feels guilty or greedy for being with all three. Sophie and Tara have assured me they are up for it and used our current situation as an example to let me know that is has been working and what we have is great. What do you think? Should i say yes and let another partner in or keep this to an already unusal three-way situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2013): Go for it!
I am currently married to another women and we have a girlfriend. We are in a committed tri-nogamous lesbian relationship but we bring other women into our bedroom with the consent of all three of us. As long as everything is out in the open I don't see a problem. The three of us are secure enough in our relationship that we have no jealously issues and encourage each other to bring home women to share our bed. Our arrangement certainly keeps our sex life interesting! If we should happen to develop feelings for someone and want to add them to your relationship then so be it. The more the merrier! Why limit yourself? Love has no limits!
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reader, idrathernot  +, writes (16 September 2012):
why restrict your self to three women when there's a whole womens pta to be had. Or if you can decide to go a little more "uptown" , ''try out'' the daughters of the american revolution.And all at the same time, why not?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 September 2010):
 Has she been tested recently? If so what the heck you may consider a bigger bed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): I think that you should meet this other woman, and get to know her...if you have feelings for her than why not? If you dont have that spark that you do with the first 2 women, than tell them that they are the only girls for you and that you'd rather not add another.
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reader, reluctant +, writes (29 September 2008):
nobody can tell u that your not in a real realationship because there more than 2 of u. if u like being with 2 women all the time, then i would think u would like getting dirty with some one new and sharing it with people u trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Personally, I would hold off on calling this a relationship at all.
I mean a realtionship involves committment that can't really be given to more then one person.
So what you are doing can be considered a type of casual sex (with some emotion thrown in for good measure) but to call it a relationship in an insult to the good relationships out there.
Anyway if you want to swing with all these people, then there is nothing preventing you from doing so. Just don't delude yourself into thinking that it has any of the emotional hallmarks of a proper relationship (be it gay or straight).
Flynn 24
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reader, michelleAKAmandi +, writes (11 September 2008):
 I think you should go with your gut. Only you know how you truly feel and if it may cause a problem in any manner, let the other girls know. I'm sure they will understand and obviously you are not 100% sure that you want this to happen or you wouldn't be asking your question. If you are not positive, then don't say yes, tell them you need to discuss it. I have a feeling if you don't you will later regret it.
I wish you luck sweetie, keep me/us informed.
Michelle
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