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I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend. What should I do?

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Question - (18 January 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 14 March 2014)
A male , *an_Stewart writes:

ive got a huge problem please if you can help then do so. ive not long been dating my girlfriend but before, herself and a friend were just mates of mine and ive been trying to get with her friend for quite some time now and i think i have fallen in love with her best friend but i also love my girlfriend what can i do???

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A male reader, DannyDJ462 United Kingdom +, writes (14 March 2014):

I feel the same way but if you love your gf you would choose her and not her best friend

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2008):

i feel the same way as you... ive been in a pretty serious relationship for about 2 months now... and i really care for my girlfriend, but me and her best friend had a bit of a thing for eachother before i started going out with my current gf... i thought her best friend didnt like me, but it now transpires she always did... the best friend is depressed, i dont want to upset or lose my gf... but i really like the best friend.. what should i do?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008):

I have the same problem i moved to a new city with my girlfriend and its changed her and her best friend is always around and i think about her all day and night i feel empty when she is not around but were friends and i dont know if she could feel the same about me i have been thinking about this for weeks and i still have not found a good way to do this but one way find a way to get her one on one and tell her that is what im going to do and if that does not work im going to end it with my girlfriend anyway and just move on.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006):

Polygamy is the answer. It's not widely accepted, and personally, I don't support it. Alas, it is not I or anyone else's judgements you need to worry about. It is your own and to those who accept it. You love two people in intimate, sexual ways. What about those two other people? I'm not sure, but they aren't gay, so those two guys can't 'love' each other that way. Hmm... To some, this may be a 'twisted' PoV, but truly, what makes it twisted?

If you haven't noticed, there is some scolding here in my words, but it is your happiness. The above is my objective PoV, but personally, you either choose one or the other. You have many choices. Make a choice then.

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A female reader, MilanaNYC21 +, writes (18 January 2006):

MilanaNYC21 agony auntSimply put, if you do not want to ruin your life completely. I suggest you either leave your girlfriend and pursue females that are not connected to her in anyway. Or, you can stay with your girlfriend and realize how WRONG it is to even feel like this about her best friend.

Picture your girlfriend wanting to date your best friend, I doubt that you would feel comfortable with this scenario.

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