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male
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anonymous
writes:Ok so this girl I really like hates me, for no reason! When I first met her she was so nice to me, but now she absolutely hates me! I really really like her and i have't done anything wrong. I've tried being nice, didn't work. I tried asking her why she hates me... Didn't work! Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, cat lady +, writes (5 January 2011):
 Hmm....we need more details. Is this someone you know from school? Maybe one of her female friends (who has a mean streak) teased her about you and now she pretends to dislike you so people will quit bothering her. Schoolgirls can be astonishingly vicious to each other. Put boys into the mix and they can be still worse. I grew up in all girls' schools but they were mean there too. By the time I got to college, which was coed, I saw plenty of students of both sexes still behaving like first-graders so age is no guarantee of rational behavior.
What is it about her that makes you think you're in love with her? Beauty, talent, accomplishments, personal virtues? Yes, you have to have a reason; otherwise it's just a passing infatuation - that's rather like a passing case of the common cold. You get over it the same way: be kind to yourself, drink lots of fluids and get plenty of restful sleep - by yourself, please. A sudden flash and poof! It's gone. We've all experienced them and often continue to do throughout adulthood.
Have you been polite to her? Have you been friendly and helpful - at least as much as she'd let you? Then you've done everything humanly possible so just relax. If it's meant to be, she'll be friendly again. The world is full of girls waiting to meet you so don't tie yourself down too early.
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