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writes:I am 14 years old and no im not exactly sure what love feels like but if i had to guess im pretty sure it would feel the way im feeling about this guy. My best guy friend introduced me to his best friend (the guy i like) and ever since I cant get my mind off of him. I slept over at his house at least 4 times already but i cant get a answer from him. What i mean is, he doesnt show affection at all. I mean sure, he will makeout, and do other stuff with girls but he can never really and truely stick to one girl. But that just makes me like him even more. Im always up for a chalange and i wanted to try to get him but i feel like i never will end up with him. He is big on weed and smokes at least 3 times every day and thats the most important thing that he cares about in his life right now. Even more than his family but i still love him and i dont know what to do about him because the more he doesnt like me and the more he doesnt show his affection towards me it just makes me want him even more. I guess its true the saying, "you want what you cant have" is true. Ive given the boy a hand job and hes fingered me but thats all we ever did and he didnt even mention it to be ever again after that night. Now when i IM him on aim he doesnt respond and when im with him im always the one having to go up to him first. And the worst thing about it is his older brother likes me and he knows which may scare him away even more and now i bet he doesnt even want to know me. I just need a sign, someone please tell me what to do. I just need to know that im not alone and that what is happening is normal. Also im afraid that if i do become his girlfriend he will get me into trouble. I mean, hes already been arrested for possesion.
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reader, goodcharlotte4life +, writes (2 January 2009):
 i know how you feel. my boyfriend smokes weed ALL the time. we make out, etc. but he never tells me he loves me. he told me once that he didn't love me and that love takes time. i smoke weed from time to time or whenever i get a chance but he gets mad when i do it. maybe one day send him a message telling him how you feel about him and how it hurts you when he doens't respond.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 Sweetheart
You are not alone this kind of thing happens so often as you are growing, I will say to you that I don't feel this is good for you but as a mother I do realise that as you grow you will want certain things in life that are no good for you its how we learn...The less notice he takes of you the more you want him of course this is the way life can get us at times hunny..I've watched 2 sons grow up into men and have all kinds of problems along the way some not good for them at all but just standing by the sidelines trying not to yell at them can be hard but its better when you talk. And also to remember that I was young once and did just the same sort of thing to learn and grow helps me to understand them...I understand you and what you are feeling. I'm not going to say to you this will work out fine love as I really don't think it will he is to into his smoke and probably most of the time in his own little world that he can not even feel only how the drug itself makes him feel and if that is the most important thing in his life then he has a lot to learn hunny...Try not to be to there and make sure you keep everything safe please don't let this guy use you hunny your worth so much more than that and just think yes your normal and its all part of growing up. But think wise and know what is good and right for you TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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