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writes:HI Im a 25 year old woman, Who has just had a misscarrage 3 days ago. i was only 6 weeks and 1 day but i cant stop crying. i feel so hurt an everyone is saying things happen for a reason and time will heal. i dont want to move on an forget about my baby ive lost. i dont know where to go from this point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2008): i got pregnant when i was 16. i was very excited considering the cercstances. i misscaried at 16 weeks. that was in may of 07. you never forget anout it. but it does get a little easier. i for one hated when people said 'everything happens for a reason.' i do however believe that God has a purpos for everything. i never found out the sex of my baby. but i named it Jordan Lee. i find joy in know that Jordan is in a better place. your baby will never have to feel the heartach this world brings. it will never get a skined knee or feel unloved. it will never know disapointment or pain. i find joy and peace knowing that Jordan will forever be in the arms of the Lord. and when i get there i'll get to hold my baby and see it face. sometimes i even imagen Jesus holding Jordan in a rocking chair.not one day has went by that i have not thought of the baby i lost. and i don't believe one ever will. and from time to time i break down and cry. but you and your baby are only seperated by the time you have left on earth. one day you'll be together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): my mother had 2-3 miscarriages. im a 17 yr old male.. my point is you don't have to forget about your baby my mother never did. she cried alot but she was happy to have me and my brother. i dont like to talk about my mother so thats all i'll say. you should just kept trying. some things in the world we can't control you have to accept it. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT and the fact your crying over this baby shows what a great mother you will/would of been. i know you didnt ask for this but you could always adopt a baby.. give the love to children who don't have one. just a suggestion. just go on day to day. find yourself what qualities make you have Meaning, Value, Usefulness, NEED, Importance.. thats how i got thru my depression/anxiety.. Right now you have to help yourself before u can help others or anything else. Take Care.. ( i suggest you find hobbies like drawing..writing..or reading what other people write on her and help them..like im doing right now..)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2008): My deepest condolences for your loss. Of course you are heartbroken! The fact that you lost your child so early doesn't make the loss any less. You do not have memories of your child to cling to, but you had dreams and hopes for that child that were very real, most likely from the moment you suspected you were pregnant. You have lost a child, and only three days ago. The place to 'go' from this point, for now, I think, is nowhere. Stay exactly where you are and mourn the loss of your child - mourn the loss of the future that might have, should have been.If three months had gone by, rather than three days, and you still found that you simply couldn't stop crying (rather than simply finding yourself crying unexpectedly, from time to time, as I expect you may), perhaps there would be something to worry about. The fact that this miscarriage has so thrown you is, I think, merely a testament to how wonderful a mother you truly are, for the single-greatest gift of a mother is love, and only love can cause such pain.Mourn this loss. Grieve for your baby. Allow yourself time to cry, and then, try to walk through the motions of life, even though all you feel is emptiness and loss. Don't expect too much too soon; eventually, the sharpness of the pain will abate, as you are able to process this loss - as it does with all deaths. Treat this as any other death of a loved one, and you will be okay.I am sorry for your loss.
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