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writes:Hi, I'm having trouble having sex with my girlfriend. As i seem to be suffering from erectile dysfunction. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. We have only been able to have missionary sex, with me on top. However i don't feel like she is satisfied enough. I feel under immense pressure to perform. She is my first partner and I've only been having sex for a month. I don't find her supportive as she has told me that she gets frustrated and once said i was 'bloody useless' whilst in bed together. It's just so frustrating for me and is taken over my every thought. What can I do about my problem? [I'm 21 btw] Thanks :)
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reader, Mr. Manpower  +, writes (20 November 2009):
I've been there before... a few things I see.
1) You need to learn what needs to be done to make a woman orgasm. It's not about you lasting long as hell, or having a huge penis... it's all about clitoral stimulation... learn some positions like the CAT technique... that hits the clit.
Being worried, anxious, depressed... all that can ruin an erection. Your lady at the moment doesn't seem to understanding, but tell her if she can lighten up a bit, you'll feel better and then your erection will come along.
This'll help you out as well:
a href="http://mistermanpower.net/blog/?p=265"b"Exercises to Strengthen Erections, Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety, and Increase Sex Drive…"/b/a
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your support. Since i wrote this, I have had less erection problems and managed to have doggy sex the last time i was with her. I went to the doctor and he prescribed me an advanced form of viagra, which I haven't picked up yet. But things are on the 'up' so to speak :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): Hi i feel it for you because you are at a very young age for this to happen, and i think you are so worry about it, it making you not relaxing enough for you to proforme. I also understand your girlfriend not feeling the way she wants to feel when you both having intercourse it must be very fustrated for her,but if she really loves you she would suppot you and not to makeig you feel worst than how you already are. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice, really appreciate it. I agree that its down to stress. Anejaculation seems like an accurate description of what I'm going through. I'll go and see my doctor and suggest this. Thanks :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice, I think it is due to anxiety. However I'm also having a problem where by I can't ejaculate through any contact by her, even when we are having intercourse, which means the only way i can ejaculate is through self masturbation. This is also causing a lot of problems, as she thinks my ability to ejaculate, through her contact, is her fault. I'm hoping its just all down to anxiety and that it will go away, but will go to see a doctor asap just in case its a physical fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer :). I agree that maybe i'm suffering from performance anxiety, however would this really affect my ability to have an erection around her? When im by myself i have no trouble with erections. I'm on no medication either. I'm going to book an appointment with the doctor and see if theres anything physically wrong with me.
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