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writes:Hey, I could use a hand on this issue. There's a guy at school/6th form, he's a fairly new english teacher, and I'm very attracted to him. I think he likes me too, we're really very close and go around town together a lot. At the moment we're just good friends, but he's single, so I would really like it if it turned into something more, and I get the feeling that the feeling's mutual. there are 12 years between us, and I'm 18, just about 6 months away from finishing 6th form. We do a lot of friendly things together, but he is also pretty flirty, always chatty and I very often catch him staring at me from across the room (my mates have also commented on this). Anyone got any advice? I really would appreciate it as I'd like something romantic to come out of this post-school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): My advice is to tell him you've noticed his looks but that nothing is going to happen until after school starts next year.That's when his teacher/student responsibilities end. And that's when he is permitted to pursue personal relationships with you.This is mainly for his protection. Tell him that other students have noticed and he should cool it a bit so that other staff don't feel that the situation becomes one which needs to be mandatorily reported.BTW, your being 18 has nothing to do with this. The UK isn't the USA. Our age of consent is 16. It is the laws about misusing a position of authority that are the problem. And again the UK isn't the USA, so he'd be looking at prison, not just losing his license to teach.Once his responsibilities to you end, then by all means contact him and ask him out. Quite a few teachers are married to their former students. And quite a few more find that outside the hothouse environment of school, their teachers are no long that attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): Well you're about to graduate and you'll likely to never see him again. Secondly, he is a teacher and you are a student. He can get fired for being engaged in a relationship with a student. That's call power abuse. I'll say: back off and find another person, and where you DON'T have to hide the relationship.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (5 January 2011):
 hi
as you have only got six months left at the school DEFINITELY don't get more involved until then. what do you mean when you say you go round town together and are good friends? have you got each others phone numbers and stuff? if so, you can make contact after you leave school and see what happens. not sure about the legal side of this really as you're eighteen but i cannot imagine any school would have a policy that allows teachers to date pupils so if anything did happen while you are still attending the school he would very likely lose his job and his career as a teacher in ANY school could be jeopardised. if he is still interested once you have left school then you will know that this is something worth pursuing. be a pupil and a friend for now and try to keep in contact after you leave so you can see what develops
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