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writes:there's a guy who likes me alot!! i am getting to like him more everyime i see him as he is becoming more confident around me!! he is also very caring!!the problem is that there is not a huge amount of physical attraction there for me!!! i'm not sure if this is best left as a friendship... where i should stay single and keep looking for a guy that has the whole package, or if i should give it a go with him and see what happens! Reply to this Question
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 What is the rush?
Some old people like me, who have survived long enough and seen many relationships, come to realize that the best relationships are the ones that develop slowly over the years.
If this guy is meant to become someone special in your life, it will become apparent as you get to know each other better.
Slow down and enjoy each other's companionship. Good luck and take care.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (20 June 2007):
 well u could stay friends with him as there isn't any physcial attraction which can make ur eyes wonder but personality is the best part of a guy most good looking guys just relay on there good looks to get them somewhere (but not saying all) so just be friends and if feeling become stronger than go for it
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reader, Banoffee +, writes (20 June 2007):
 Hello
I don't think this is an uncommon situation. Most people find themselves in your position at one time or another. Maybe even you've been in this position before. If so, how was it similar, what did you do and how did it turn out?
I think first of all you could do with asking yourself why you are considering dating this guy. It doesn't exactly sound like he rocks your world, which is fine - there's no reason why he should. Just be honest. It's important to make your actions match your words, for the sake of your own sanity and his! Remember, he's not a charity case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Hi, I am same age and was in same situation not long ago but I was set up with this guy on a blind date. There was no physical attraction there for me but he was incredibly shy and sweet(open doors etc!)so thought I'd give him a go.
Unfortunately it didn't work out anyway (mutual agreement) but if you are thinking of starting a relationship with him just be careful and make absolute sure that you are attracted and drawn to him in every other way, you don't want to lead him on or hurt him in the end, especially as I've found when you're out in the evening your eyes start to wander at guys you DO find quite hot or attractive!
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reader, Missi +, writes (20 June 2007):
 I think you should give him a chance because like they say beauty is only skin deep if the rest of him is great then you should totaly go for it.
And just because youve started going out with him it doesnt mean u cant end it if your feel uncomfatable or some one with the full package comes along.
xx
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reader, Straight Up +, writes (20 June 2007):
 i think you should give a go why not what do you have to lose. you say the only problem is the physical attraction just like you grew to like him you can also grow to be attracted to him.
hust give him a try
goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): I dated a guy i was great friends with, but I was not physically attracted to him. I left him for a guy I was attracted to (who I am still with 2.5 years later) and my ex got very very hurt.
Chemistry is a VERY important part of a relationship so I suggest you leave it as friends for now. Pursue it if chemistry does develop between the two of you. Otherwise you might meet a guy who you are attracted to and pursue that.
Do not be with a guy cause you are good friends and its 'handy' for the here and now. Wait for the right guy, you will know when you meet him.
Good luck!
:)
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