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writes: Hello everyone, I have a big problem 'thank God I found this site today 'My story is a painful one and I need a help here wish I can.I'm from part of Africa where gay people were regarded as evil spirits and outcast from the community or from the region, in my tradition they believe that gay people bring hardship in the community or enviroment they live in.They also believe that anyone who is gay is not gonna prosper in life but will end up in suffering, they said that even when they are praying. They don't wish to see anyone who is gay near their children as they believe it is an abominable thing for a gay to step foot into their compound.On the other hand for christian community they see gay people as evil spirits and an abominable act too.Also the same story in the Muslim community where they have no mercy than to 'stone to death' anyone who is been caught practicing homosexuality.This is the exact case with me as I'm gay, 20 years old and I found out that I am very attracted to boys when I was just 14 years, I tried to stop myself but I couldn't, though I have never been in a relationship with a man to date but I still know what I want but I don't know how to achieve that.Due to their beliefs and what they can do to me if they got to find out that I'm gay, I was scared and afraid to show myself, but I always act like a 100%straight while the feeling is dying inside me.I have some day discussed it with my family doctor in secret and he understands how I feel and suggested I travel to another country in order to express my feelings since that is what I want but I can't afford to obtain travel documents as I'm from a poor family backgrand and still a student with no job.It is so painful to me and sometimes I feel I hate myself for who I am.This is so serious and I don't know what to do, please, any reasonable help will be highly appreciated. Thanx.
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reader, Dreamlover  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 hey there, im from south africa, and im gay, yu dont have to travel the continent to be who you are, remain true to who you are now, and when you finish your studies leave your place of birth. If you are able to change universities then try that in another afican country.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): Hello dear,
Its always very good feeling to be honest to our self. and you did it, admiting it to your self that you are gay is the key of your freedom.. C"mon, why punish your self? if you are happy to what your are so be it. If people around you cant understand that, then leave them alone with their belief. You are the same like us, a human being and have a right to live and to be happy. Set your self and go to the place where you can ba happy and content.. good luck dear..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): Well, look on the bright side, at least there's still hope - Christians and muslims agreeing on something!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): not overly sure what help it is you are looking for. Your doctor has already told you what you need to do. So i suggest you finish your studies so that when you travel to a country that accepts gay people you will all able to gain employment.
Good luck
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