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writes:I'm four months pregnant and I feel so not sexy. The worst is that I feel like my husband does not want to have sex with me anymore. I've put on 8-9 lb and I feel like he does not like the way I look now. He still tells me I'm beautiful when I say I feel fat, but he never just coomes out and say it without me mentioning that I feel FAT. This morning I noticed that he was looking up his erotic emails again - he does not know that I know that. I'm not sure how to talk to him about how I feel and that I would love to get intimate again... please help. I'm not sure how to feel good about myself again... Reply to this Question
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reader, dreamonique +, writes (17 August 2009):
wow, finally someone who feels the same way i do! i am 3 months prego, and im in the same boat. i'll tell you what i tell myself. dont rely on him to make you feel good. it helps,absolutley! but all in all,your opnion is what really matters! just think about his flaws. and know that being pregnant is beautiful, and that your a wonderful person. and that your carring HIS child! i've stopped telling him "i feel fat" and stuff like that. to him(our men) we sound insecure, and thats not sexy! just be secure with who you are and enjoy this while you can! afterall, its only temporary! and you'll be one hot mama after birth with a beautiful child! dont let your man or anyone make you feel differently! he'll be more attracted once he sees you've accepeted how pregnancy will change your body and that its ok with you.and act or if you have to pretend you dont care what he thinks! does he worry if hes gained weight and if your still attracted to him?! prob not! you be the leader in this one! enjoy this while you can. you'll get your figure back after the baby is born!
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reader, imo32  +, writes (16 March 2009):
totally agree with ArmyMedic... you need to talk to him... let him know you still feel very sexual, and reassure him that you still want to be physical...
i wouldn't worry to much if he's accessing porn (if that is what the emails are), why not watch it together while being intimate??
and as for feeling like a fat cow, how many guys recognise when a woman puts on a few pounds?? pregnancy is the one time us women benefit from men's ignorance!!
Besides, the changes he will notice with your body will just remind him that you are going to give birth to his baby... something no other woman is doing for him, especially not the ones in the erotic e mails!
Communicate with him...
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reader, Olivia(Y).  +, writes (16 March 2009):
 Guys don't really understand what girls go throw being pregnant. When your pregnant your body is dealing with supporting you and your baby which means you will have alot of hormones flying around your body which will make you feel less sexy and cause you to have mood swings.
Your husband still thinks your sexy. When carrying a child you will put on weight but thats only because you have your child inside you that is relying on you to live. You will lose all the weight when you give birth so you will be back to your sexy self in no time.
If you are feeling down about yourself, take yourself aside and have a day of pampering to yourself. Have a walm bath with a sented bubble bath to calm you. And the cuddle up in bed and watch a film or something. Just treat yourself!
Good luck with you pregnancy, Only 5 months left and you will have a beautiful child.
Livia
xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (16 March 2009):
 I'm sure your boyfriend does still think you are beautiful, but does he know that he can still have sex with you when you are pregnant?
Most guys don't understand what you are going through and how unsexy you feel, the looking up dodgy stuff on-line is just his way of getting rid of frustration as he thinks he can't have you!
Talk to him tell him how you miss being sexual with him and how you don't feel sexy or that he is going off you. I'm sure he isn't but only he can reassure you.
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