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writes:hi im 26,not really experienced in sex and get very nervous and have no idea what im doing and worry if im doing it wrong. i have a girlfriend over in hongkong,i met her once in december and she stayed with me for 10days and shes coming over later in the year.she likes sex even though we did it only once,she wants me to take control,which is kinda hard since i have no confidence in that area.i want to please her and make her happy,she gets bored easy so i need variety for her.im very shy,conservative and really need some advice please since she expects me to take control.she says sex is very important in a relationship and i just want to make her happy.if anyone can be kind enough to give me some advice that would be greatly appreciated thank you
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 You'll do fine but you do need a complete "course" in sexuality, and "Annalisa" nailed it by suggesting Kama Sutra. My recommendation, and this means no slight whatsoever as I've read this version as well as others, is "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Kama Sutra." Read, practice and you'll be a master.
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reader, Miss-Blonde  +, writes (4 March 2008):
Dont worry. You could talk to her about it, ask her what she would find a more "interesting" and "exciting" way of doing it. Tell her that you feel shy and un confident about this kind of thing and she will understand and help you out a little bit by telling her if she likes to be touched gently or likes it rough etc.
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (4 March 2008):
 Shy men often make the best lovers. You just need the will to please your woman and enjoy her.
Being a good lover isn't necessarily about experience, it's more to do with immagination. So just relax and lay your woman back: watch how her body is formed and follow every contour with your hands and lips. Offer to give her a massage and pretend you are the sea, move your hands like washing waves over her body...
Pay attention to the parts you touch that make her react;
when you make love to her, cover her body in kisses, be gentle but firm, don't rush and enjoy kissing and handling her breasts; kiss and lick your way down to her private area and give her oral sex.
Giving a woman oral sex should be a little like licking ice-cream off a cone, with added immagination and occasional sucking! Use your fingers inside her too, basic thrusting will be ideal, when combined with licking of her clytoris.
When it comes to intercourse, try different positions. You don't need to say too much, just telling her to get on all fours will turn her on no end!
Get a copy of the Kama Sutra for suggestions on sexual positions... or just ask us!
Good luck!
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