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writes: I met this guy in a straight gym in Essex, England and i fell in love with him from day one. I got to chat with him, and asked him to be my gym buddy, which he agreed to. While we were in the jaccuzi, i noticed how he was staring in my eyes with real admiration, that gave me the courage and, Later on the mobile, i text him and told him that i was gay. He made it clear to me that he was 120% straight. Well he was willing to continue to be my gym buddy so i said phew! As two weeks passed i built up the courage to ask him if he wanted me to massage him and after another week he obliged. I massaged him in the view of others, but i felt uneasy, so i stopped. I text him and asked him for us to do it somewhere more private, but he declined. When we met at the gym again, i massaged him again, but this time it was in the steam room and it was very sensuous. I was all over him. At one point he said that he hated his feet as i was massaging his firm legs. I was gonna go further as i was an inch away from his crotch and for some reason i did not. The next time i met him at the gym, again the massage went on and i was well determined to go all the way because on the phone he even text to say that he hung around gays. But to my surprize, as i was trying to get into his shorts, he held onto his crotch for his dear life and i never got further than that. He avoided me since then ,but still text to say we were gym buddies for five weeks until he just stopped returning my text. I wondered what i did wrong and cant come up with the answer. Interestingly On the New Years day i called him, but thought he was Roy, another friend of mine who was straight and i asked if this was Roy when it was not. He said he would be free in two weeks time, but that was the last of him. I also wondered how i could get back in touch with him, so i left an expensive New Year gift with a note at the receptionist for when he visit the gym again, hoping that will do the trick. I just hope it works. do you think this guy was really 120% straight and what do think happened that caused him to just stop? He is 18 and i am 21.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): I feel he may be acting like this because you was maybe too full on for him, he told you he was 120% straight and then you want to massage him and send gifts to his work. He wanted to be gym buddies/friends and thats all, maybe you took it too far. I would say contact him one more time explain the way you are feeling and that you will happy to just be friends if he doesnt reply then i think its best to just leave it and find yourself a new gym buddy. Hope my advice has been helpful!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 It is possible that he wanted to test the waters and feel what it was like. He got chicken and had enough.I think it turned him off. He is comfortable just being friends or buddies and not those close contacts.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 It sounds like he's confused or reluctant to continue with the sexual tension; to be honest I think it's a little wrong of you to have come on so strong to someone who made it clear he was not interested, even if he didn't push you off each time; you could have finally scared him off, but i think only time will tell. Next time you see him though i would respect his space, it's time to see if he is interested in reciprocating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): ok first of all he IS gay but not comfortable with it. I dont think you did anything personal to offend him. Maybe hes not ready to face it. Dont be hard on your self,,,,move on to someone who is comfortable.
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