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writes:I have been cheating on my husband, only because our sex live is virtually non existence - try no sex for 2 yrs and before that lucky if I got it every 3 months. We have been married for coming up 8 yrs now. I have asked him a numerous of times why, but he get angry and just says he does not know why he is like that. I told him he should seek help, but I think he is too embarrest to do that. I have a high sex drive and I just cant go on trying to ignore my desires. I have a boyfriend, but I feel guilty because I do love my husband as well. I know my husband suffers from high blood pressure. Do you think its that, whats making have NO libido?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2009): I took a multivitimin that seems to have increased my libido a lot. I used to feel fatigued after I masterbated which lasted about a week but now I don't. I feel like I'm 16 again. It may have something to do with the prostate gland but I'm not sure. I'm still trying to understand it. Even after I stopped taking the multivitmin I still have a strong libido.
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (23 October 2009):
 High blood pressure medication, such as beta-blockers like Atenolol, are notorious for causing erectile dysfunction (documented), and may also reduce sexual desire.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Poor guy...You are not the best thing for him right now are you? He could suspect your adultery and be so devastated he doesn't know what to do. He could just be as fed up with you as you are with him. Be kind to each other, get some help and make better choices about what you are doing. Maybe you both need to move on, you certainly both need some honesty. Good luck.
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reader, medicinemanrp +, writes (22 October 2009):
Hello. if your husband has been diagnosed with hypertension, and is taking medication for it, then yes; erectile dysfunction is a definate side effect of this, as not enough blood pressure is there to drive the blood into the penis. On the other hand, if it is not a erectile dysfunction, but rather, a low sex drive, then there can be other medical issues such as low testerone (That can be medically checked, and testosterone supplements can be given). If everything checks out medically, and/or he is unwilling to do anything about it, then you two need a serious talk.trying to make this brief, you could always do what my fiance' and i do; have an open relationship (Date other people, that the other person "Approves"). Niether of us have problems, and we love each other dearly, but we have an open relationship for the time being, in order to add spice to our lives. eventually we will stop that, and settle down with each other, but for now, it's fun!
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reader, Sammycake +, writes (22 October 2009):
 The first thing I should mention is that you can't expect your husband to have the sex drive of someone in their 20's - but yes, high blood pressure could be one of the problems. Poor health in general can lower his desire for sex, alongside stress and other similar symptoms.
As for your high sex drive, I don't agree with what you're doing - excuse the pun. Your husband obviously loves you very much and not being able to please his wife must be a very big hit on his ego. Try talking to him again, but this time don't bring up the lack of sex, ask him what's going on with his life, whether anything's bothering him. Express that it's bothering you too and that you'd appreciate it if he tried to get it sorted. You'll be there for him all the way, no matter how difficult it gets.
Good luck, that's about as much advice as I can give at the moment.
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