A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am in such a desperate situation so please bare with me. I have been with my husband for 13 years we have 3 wonderful children. I found myself attracted to another man who is 11 years younger than me. He is not the problem ,even though the feelings are tthere. The problem lays with me telling my husband that i have an attraction and he being ok with it. He is a great guy please do not get me wrong he is the best husband ever.. we'll i am now not feeling attraction for my husband . All of my focus goes to the guy that i met. I am so concerned and scared.. i know that we can go to counseling, but that will not bring back my feelings for him. I really am starting to not love him.. Help Reply to this Question
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (18 September 2008):
 I think you lost respect for your husband, therefore all your attraction for him is gone. i don't know if counseling will get this back. I think women want strong men who will "fight" for their women and since your husband is okay with you and your younger man, now you're questioning yourself and your marraige.
Be careful that what you feel for the younger guy is lust/infatuation. It's a distraction and excitement from the boredom you feel in a 13 year old marraige. There are a lot of issues that you need to work on with your husband. I say try to save it, and if it doesn't work out, then do it right by ending it.
The young guy is too young to get involved in this situation. He's probably only in it for some "fun". So don't have any fantasy of him being "The one".
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