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writes: my bf and i have been dating for about a year and a half before he left for further studies in the U.S. before he left we had no trust issues but now I am afraid the whole long distance thing wont work. I am in africa, he's miles away and i have to do all the calling and writting. he won't write back despite the fact that we both have cellphones. he says that he can't communicate because between work and school he has no time left over. he's one of those nice,respectful guys but i worrry he'll break up with me because we can't have sex and am sure he cant wait till 5 years are over. do i hang in there with him and risk loosing him in the future or do i break up with him and live with the 'what if'? help I am so confused.
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reader, melschatbox  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 The better way to view your relationship is not ..."Let me break up with him first, before he breaks up with me" but..let me live my life ..while he's living his. I can with little reservation say your situation won't last. Opposite sides of the country..for one thing. Long distance relationships are terribly hard..even for people that are both trying really hard to make it last. Sounds like your guy is not trying to sustain making you feel wanted/needed as with his not putting forth the effort that you are. If you wait around for him..sure it may work...but, why do that? Go live your separated lives..and if you 2 meet up again someday..after gaining more life experiences ...then best of luck.
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