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writes:23 years between us, both been thru alot, and i am way way inlove, if anythings happenes to us im not afraid to say that i wud be able to live without him,we broke up for a week becuase i got drunk and kissed another bloke, i took an overdose, doctrs tell me i shudnt be here, what can i do , im afraid that he will cheat on me, we have an amazing relationship, we can talk about anything!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Deema is so right, i am concerned for you also, mail me if you want.
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reader, Deema +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Darling I feel very concerned about you. You are very young and you sound very confused. You say you can live without him yet you took an overdose when he was gone for a week. Age differences can be got over, providing you are both of an age to understand what you are doing and are on an equal level, i.e. both mature. I have a big age gap in my relationship - yes there are differences sometimes and yes sometimes it can make for insecurities, but the insecurities were already there, the other person is just bringing them out, trust me, I know that to be true. Darling are your family supportive in this? Are they and/or your health service giving you the help you need right now? You sound like you are in a very unhappy place and lots of alarm bells are ringing for me. PLEASE talk to a caring, responsible adult that you feel comfortable with - counsellor, mental health nurse or someone qualified to help you. Your life will go on whatever happens to you, if you choose it to. Trust me, I had a lot of hard knocks and I'm still here, still standing, but I also had the right people to turn to in times of trouble - you need them too. Take care of yourself darling. You are veeeery vulnerable at the moment. Be very gentle with yourself. Treat yourself like that little kitten we all love to hold. God Bless xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Why did you take an overdose, if you have an amazing relationship then it all doesnt add up, like the other aunt said, can you tell us a bit more. It all sounds a bit weird to me.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (20 May 2008):
 23 years is a big age-gap if you are 16-17. Hopefully he has the maturity and calm to guide you through, because from your description of what has happened you have a long way to go.
Will he cheat on you? Highly unlikely. You increase the risk of him cheating by behaving like a kid instead of like a responsible woman. I know it's difficult, because you are in that mid-point between being an adolescent and being a woman. At your age you can be either, but at his age he doesn't want an irresponsible teenager as his partner.
Be a woman. Love him like a woman. And you will have a fair chance of keeping him totally faithful to you. But please, please make sure that he really is who and what you want. A 23-year age-gap is not going to be easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Can you give us some more information? You say you are way in love, but you could live without him... ??
How long have you been together? We need more information. What exactly are you asking?
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You can always private message me if you'd rather do that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I'm a little confused. You need to provide a lot more information if you are to find usefull help and advice on this board.
You love him, but you go out and get drunk and kiss someone else. Why would you do this if your in love with him?
You have an amazing relationship with him, but he broke up with you over one kiss. What else have you done, why can't he believe you and forgive you?
You've taken an overdose, because you can't live without him in your life. Is this healthy, do you want him to stay because he loves you, or do you want him to stay because he's frightened you may try to kill yourself?
Provide more information about this unhealthy relationship which has recently finnished.
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