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writes:Alright, so, after coming back on campus this summer after a semester abroad a guy, *James, who I was always just an acquaintance with me started hitting on me at work; we work for different departments at my school but we saw each other all of the time. We hung out a few times and he asked me out, and I had to say no because I was in a relationship with *Devon even though I REALLY liked this guy. Well, the relationship between *Devon I never worked out because he eventually explained that he "Wasn't ready for a relationship right now." Okie dokie. Honestly, I felt kind of relieved because he was pressuring me to not go abroad next spring like I had already planned to. So I started seeing my FWB, *Harry, again, and *James asked me out again, and I again said no only because it didn't seem like a good idea. I felt REALLY bad about it because for one, I really liked *James and for two, I felt like I led him on, only to realize that I was not ready for a serious relationship. What I told *James was that I was leaving in December and would not be back in the States until May. Then I'd be on campus 'til December '11, and then I'd be gone another semester until I came back for a few days to graduate in May '12, after which I'd be going who knows where to hopefully a job in any city/state that would take me. Having been in a LDR before, I didn't really want to do it again, though, again, I REALLY liked--and still like--*James. Since turning him down the second time we've become FWBs as well, and I'm totally comfortable with that. Nevertheless, I'd love to take things to the next level but I'm afraid to. *James keeps explaining that he wants me to be his girlfriend even though right now, he's, ahem, getting it for free lol.Well, last night *James asked me out on a date, and today we're going out to dinner. Being our first real "date" and all, it really has me thinking about my decisions and the way I'm looking at the whole situation. What do you guys think; if you were in my shoes, based on what I described, what would you do?
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (3 October 2010):
 James :-) its obvious. u like him he likes u. dont think of the future and an LDR. dont put more stress on urself. enjoy ur time with james good luck
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