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writes:Hi, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. His name is Jamie. I feel like I'm ready to tell him that I love him. I still get butterflies like when we first met. I feel so comfortable with him. He lets me fart in front of him and doesn't care what I look like without makeup. He still thinks I'm beautiful. When he smiles and looks at me, I just...I don't know. I love it. But here's the thing, he's my first serious boyfriend. All of my other relationships have never lasted this long. And I've said "I love you" to a guy before (someone who I wasn't dating) but he was very cold and rejected me. That's kind of what's holding me back now I guess. I don't want to get hurt again. What if Jamie's response is the same? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 November 2013):
 I remember realizing I was falling in love with my then boyfriend... (and honey I'm not young) and I was NOT happy about it. I certainly did NOT want to tell him...
I can see it clear as day.. the two of us standing and talking about how we felt... and I said to him "damn you to hell" and it's funny but he KNEW it meant "I love you"
why do I tell you this... because every couple is different.. in our house "damn you to hell" is still used to say "I love you" cause I ended up marrying him....
take a deep breath... and sit Jamie down and say "I need to tell you something" and DO NOT expect ANY response at all... he may feel the same way.... (mine did and it's taken him 2 years of dating and a year of marriage to be Almost comfortable saying it)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 November 2013):
Tell him. There's only one way to find out how he feels, and telling him is it.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 November 2013):
 *****What if Jamie's response is the same?****
Then you are missing the point. NOT everyone tosses ILY around like it doesn't mean that much. Others SHOW it more then say it and then there are the cautious ones, such as you, who don't say it in fear of "rejection".
Don't you think if he didn't LOVE you he would have walked away by now?
My question is do you FEEL loved by him? IF you do then say it to him, but don't EXPECT him to say it back, maybe HE is not ready either.
It's OK to tell someone you LOVE that you LOVE them.
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