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writes:I'm a not a normal teenaged girl....I'm on the honour roll at school, I've never had a detention, I've never done drugs or drank alcohol, I do my chores when I'm told to, I watch my three younger siblings, which includes getting them ready for school, feeding them,, bedtime, the whole nine yards. Yet my parents, mostly my step father, say I am an undeserving spoiled brat. Never have I once told them I hated them, or given attitude, or done anything to hurt them. I've always supported everything they have gone through. For the past few months I've been thinking of moving out...except for the fact I would be leaving my mother and younger siblings alone with my step father. He hits one of my siblings continuously, and has hit me before. I can't call childrens aid, because I'm afraid they will be separated from my mother, and she has never shown an ounce of anger towards them. She also doesnt have a job, so my step father is the provider of the family. I'm getting a job soon, and hopefully will have enough money to move out soon.....but is this a good idea? My friends really think I should, and tonight after a fight with my step father, I was considering running away, but I need advice, other than my peers....can anyone help me out?
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reader, violet835  +, writes (12 November 2008):
Have you tried talking to your mother about your situation? If he is the only money coming into the family I can see the problem, and if your mother is truly powerless when it comes to leaving him, then I'd maybe consider running away. But, you never know quite how hard it is on your own until you're on your own. You're responsible for everything, and there's a lot of sacrifices you have to make because you just can't afford it. If your step-father begins to seriously hurt anyone, I'd call the authorities immediately. But if things are just horribly unpleasant I'd recommend trying your hardest to stick it out, because it's just so hard being alone. Especially a good student like yourself, alone you'll have fewer opportunities. So I'd stay unless you really end up with no choice. Hope this helps and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Well dont runaway. I though about it once...but i didnt cuz i knew id be missed and in time something bad was to happen.
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reader, kurvy  +, writes (12 November 2008):
Don't worry about your step-father telling you you're a spoiled brat, It's amazing how other people try to put others down because their life sucks. Try to see if your mom can get a job and then maybe, just maybe you and her could buy an apartment and live on your own. Running away does not solve anything, it is a selfish act and you would be leaving your mother and I think it would hurt your siblings a ton.
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