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writes: I am a very proud person. I have tried therapy and combating this problem all to no avail as it often affect my relationship with other people. I remember being nice and loving when I was younger till my parents separated I became a monster. I never knew I was proud till people often complain that am rude and proud. It really bothered me so sometimes I listen to my self and noticed some pride in the tone of my voice. I am a no nonsense person. Could this be mistaken for pride. I do not feel am proud but a lot of people can't be wrong at the same time. People mistake my strength or toughness for pride I guess or may be I am just proud and I do not know it. It has been had keeping a boyfriend cos they all say am proud. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ Abella …thnk you
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reader, Abella  +, writes (8 September 2012):
 hi
If you have grown up seeing adults acting in an uncaring disrespectful way towards others, and acting WITHOUT empathy then you are no doubt emulating the behaviour of the very same adults who have caused you pain in the past.
This is learned behaviour.
With your strong motivation and a firm well directed therapist and your determination you can UNLEARN this toxic nasty arrogant behaviour.
If you do not unlearn this nasty behaviour you are likely to become more and more like the Toxic adults who already cause you so much pain.
And while you remain too arrogant and rude you will attract 'friends you do not need' who are similiar and arrogant and rude,
Work on re-inventing who you are, to become a person with more Consideration for others, develop more Empathy. Consider a course on Communicating with others better.
Consider volunteering with your time and effort (not your money) with an underpriveleged sector of the population and learn how the other half of the world lives.
Your life can only get better when you turn away from being arrogant.
Arrogant is not a 'no nonsence' approach. It is instead rude, disrespectful and nasty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@eyeswideopen, I mean arrogant.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (7 September 2012):
 Do you mean arrogant rather than proud?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ so confused… NONONSENSE: I set my standards and break them for noone.PROUD: The tone of my voice and a lot of people say am proud which I never knew of,I just think a lot of people can't be wrong.RUDE: I walk out on people, cut their calls when they piss me off and I don't smile when things offend me. They say my mode of talking when am angry is rude.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 September 2012):
 I think you mis-use the word proud.
can you give me an example?
I'm proud
I'm no nonsense..
both of these are good traits..
rude is a totally different thing..
I need an example of what you mean to understand further.
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