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writes:I'm a man in my 40's and I'm still a virgin (I know it's embarrasing). I have a good career ad I try to get to know people but people just seem to avoid me. Even my co-workers, I know I can be a typical boss and despite people thinking I am happy, deep down I'm miserable. What is wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2013): I do not know you, so it's difficult to give meaningful advice, however I think it is important that you know you are not alone!!! I'm in the same boat and in my fortys. I was also influenced by biblical teachings. There is nothing wrong with you based on what you have revealed. Some men have been sexually active for years and years and are still unhappy!!! Finding someone you can relate to, and who
understands you is what is important!! All the best:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): I am 40 and I am still a virgin. It really bugs me. I did not want it to be this way. I have friends that have like 4 kids and I do not have any. At this point I am almost 100% sure I will die a virgin. Women do want experienced men. I have no experience and with each passing day it gets more and more difficult. I wish I had an easy solution but I don't. I mean males this age have to deal with the same problems that 15 year olds do......premature ejaculation, not getting errections and what not. It is just very difficult.
To make things worse for the life of me I dont know why these girls are not interested in me. I am a Physician. I thought women were into that stuff.
Now even if she did come along, I realize I am 20 years past my sexual peak. I probably will not be any good.
The other thing is that it is really difficult to just realize that the party is going on and you were not invited.
At this point with my nieces and nephews I am giving them the advice to try and become sexually active before you are out of highschool. At this point I realize that I have totally wiped out any chance of ever being a father or even a husband.
I do blame a lot of it on the religion and the whole abstain till marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): There are a number of people in the same boat as you. If you are interested in getting some of that confidence back, maybe a new look, and having a "Date-ability Makeover"
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Perhaps you are trying to get to know people in the wrong places. At work is not the right idea to make friends usually.
Being a virgin just means that circumstances have not been right to get there yet.
Join a gym, social group, evening class or even do some charity work. By changing the environment you normally frequent will allow you to meet different people.
She is out there somewhere waiting for you!
Good luck xxx
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reader, scared16 +, writes (19 December 2006):
 there is nothing wrong with you being a virign. you are just waiting for the right person which is great! try being a bit more relaxed around people and letting yourself go a bit more. prove to them you are not just the typical unaproachable boss x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Well we don't know anything about you, so I most likely we can't really help you. Generic answers don't work with everyone. My uncle was a virgin until he was 46, when he got married and had children.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (17 December 2006):
 Sounds like a film!?!?
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (17 December 2006):
I don't think the virgin part should matter right now. I think first you have to deal with the people issue. Are you a very assertive person? Perhaps you've coming off way too assertive to your coworkers. You really have to look into how you talk to people and your mannerisms when you do. I know we all hate know-it-alls, condescending people, etc. So, perhaps you should keep notes how what you say to people and how you're saying it. Then analyze it at the end of the week and see what you might be doing wrong. If you've always had this problem, you might be at an age/time where you don't notice your own personality could be afflicting people in the wrong way. So, you might need someone else to look at your notes and tell you what may be wrong.
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