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writes:Well, I'm a 19 year old female and I'm a lesbian. All my friends have settled down and 4 of my friends that I went to school with have gotten engaged and had babies. To be honest, I really feel jealous of them. I love going to see them and see their happy little families of their own they now have. Thing is, When I do see them it makes me sad. Makes me think of what I'm missing out on by being a lesbian. I know I'm only 19 but I really want to have a baby. I've always loved little kids and looking after them etc. I have a little sister who is 5 and I've helped my mother raise. So I'm good with kids. All my friends keep telling me how good of a mother I will be if I have kids but they don't seem to think I want kids because I am a lesbian. But I really do! I don't know how to go about it, being a lesbian and all. I don't like guys at all. Not sexually, emotionally or physically. I don't know what to do. I had one serious boyfriend when I was 15 and I was with him for a year and a half till he died. That's the only guy I have ever been attracted too. I don't know what I'm really asking her; But do you think there is anyway that I can change my sexuality or how I feel towards guys so I'm able to be with a guy and get pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really want a kid of my own. I know adoption is there and I could bring up a kid as my own but it wouldn't be the same. Yes I've heard of sperm donation but that costs money. I don't have enough money to go and do that. Thanks for your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2007): Well it depends if u just want a kid or a kid of ur own?
U could always adoped a young child nd bring it up as ur own?
Or there's a thing called a sperm donation I'm not sure if you have heard of it?Nd that can make u pregnant!
Hope this helps!x
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reader, Pork Hock  +, writes (18 April 2007):
Hi there, As a single Mum, you might be if you go through this...it is great the best thing ever, but incredibly hard and lonely. I know lots of gay couples and single people, gay and straight with children and they all face challenges. If you have a supportive partner and is willing to make a lifetime commitment to you and a child and it is solid, no worries or doubts go ahead. Contact your local support group for gay people wanting families, there are great resources for you, you can do this.
If you are alone, work out your finances, flexibility with a job, caregivers. It is incredibly hard hard work but incredibly satisfying but make sure you do your absolute best, the best you can for this child. It is human and grows up and be prepared for questions about who you are, your sexuality, questions from its' friends at school...all stuff to think about. I was 16 when my brother was born so I know what it took, as do you if you know what's it like. But think about finances, a supportive network. A child doesn't need always 2 parents, Mum/Dad, two Mums, two Dads just a great family whatever that is and you.
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