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writes:Hello everyoneThis is my question!Is trying your hardest always worth it?I'm 14 and I know this sounds like I'm up my own a*e, but it really is an issue for me. I'm the 'perfect' teenager in a parent/guardian's perspective. I'm trustworthy, polite, I do all my homework, never go out after I should, never smoke/drink, never have any inapporopriate sexual experiences like many people my age, keep my room tidy and generally clean etc, rarely go to partys, do all my chores etc, never had a girlfriend etc. But you know what, I feel lonely!Since I started secondary school in 2004 I have felt like it, I'm not at all shy, I started a new school with all new people etc, I was polite etc but people called me 'gay' etc. I argued with all of the imature 'cool' idiots in my year (the normal teenagers who feal the girls/boys and constantly joke about sex etc). I argued with them and then everyone left me alone. I have a couple of friends but I'm not cool, but because of my elegance and people find me funny at times etc, people don't know what to make out of me. I'm not cool, but then I am but then I'm a freak for being decent in my manorism.Teacher's/parent's have congratulated me for my maturety but I just don't have friends (only 5).I live along way from school in a town I hate, I can vist school friends etc but I just don't want too, I just can't laugh about sex 24/7 and diss everyone and everything like they do!Why does no one my age respect my attitude, some people would love someone like myself who is decent and has respect for the wold and people. How is that not cool!?Also their are some decent girls in my year group but theyf all for the imature boys who feal them up etc, is thhis just teenage hood? Is everyone like this? Am I just maybe too mature?Is there anyone out their my age like me? lolI would appreciate your viewsThanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2007): Hi I think its wonderful how you are. I dont know if your a christian or not but even if your not. Stay the way you are because why waste something on someone if there not the one and really know if there special to you i know i would want to save myself for that person and plus its better because you dont compare to others you may have been with because sometimes it could affect your relationship with someone you really love and you think that you dont because your not satisfied. If that makes any sense to you.
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reader, naa50123 +, writes (2 May 2007):
Hey there, I'm 15 & a few years ago I was just like you. I understand completely what it's like. But it's hard to give advice on! :)
Eventually you might get bored or frustrated with doing so much work & being so 'straight-edge' (at least, I did). Are you trying to impress adults around you, or do you genuinely prefer being so well behaved and hard working all the time? And about arguing with the 'cool' people, they're just immature idiots & there's no point because they'll just take the piss even more. What I did was kept my head down for a bit. I know everyone probably says this but try to ignore them, coming back with a clever comment is just what they want.
It sounds as if you haven't quite made your impression yet? Steer towards being a bit less eager with answering questions in class etc, laugh along with a few of the sex jokes even if you don't think they're that funny or mature, generally jusy blend in & be accepted as one of the 'OK' people. Sorry I can't give you better advice than that.
The exact same thing happened to me though, so if you want to chat, my MSN is [email address blocked] :)
Good luck!
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reader, jmac1344  +, writes (24 April 2007):
 You might want to try letting loose a bit more.
And keep in mind that 13/14 year olds are more narrow minded and naive than any other age group, even a couple years makes a huge difference.
If nothing else, you can look forward to being wealthy (both finacially and otherwise) in the future while those other guys are pumping gas.
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reader, jmac1344 +, writes (24 April 2007):
I'm 16 and can't say I've gone through any of that.
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I honestly think you're missing out by not letting loose a bit more.
But you're right, 13/14 year olds are immature, naive and narrow minded, probably moreso than any other age group with the exception of children under 10. When you get into highschool though you'll find people are more mature, and for the most part won't care nearly as much about what you do or who you hang out with. Atleast thats how it is around here.
If none of that is comforting, you can sleep well knowing that in 15 years from now you'll be living a life those immature punks could only dream of while sitting in an Airstream trailer watching old Springer reruns.
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