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writes:I have been divorced for about two years. I am in my late forties. I have recently started dating a man I met on line. We have been talking for about a month and have gone on three dates. The realtionship is taking a turn towards sex. I'm a little rusty with the relationship thing. Is it too soon to think about this?
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reader, troubledtoomuch + ♥, writes (6 January 2008):
 The right thing is whatever you feel is right, the first date or after 6 months. As Phil said, make sure of his background. My wife and I have been together for 28 years now, but when we were dating 25 to 30 years ago after our divorces, sleeping together on the first date or second date was common. I liked waiting until the second date, but most women wanted sex on the first date. The ones who I remember the most were the 2 who followed my lead of the second date. My wife was one of those. My wife does wish that she had not allowed herself to sleep with some men on the first date, but we are both glad that we did have a few partners instead of just one. It helped us know that each other is the best that we think that we could have found. Do whatever you want to do, just be safe and happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): I was on my own for 10 years and dreading having to start relationships again. I wanted to meet the right man, not just have sex with anyone. I am glad I waited. I'm now engaged to the most wonderful man ever. We have been together 2 years now and are planning our wedding. I was really rusty too, but that soon went away. Now I feel like a teenager (at 48) I made him wait for about 6 weeks until I was ready, and he said it was the best thing I did, he loved me for it.
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reader, Uncle_Phil  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Just try to make sure of his background - he might be one of those lying cheating types - you never know about online acquaintances, and if you feel like a spot of nookie and you're ok with him then why not?
Go with the flow, as it were. You'll soon get rid of the rust and get back into the swing of things. I'm surprised you've waited as long as this! 2nd date seems to be the norm these days!
Phil
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (6 January 2008):
 For those who read my posts you know what a sarcastic ass i am. however i actually have to say i find this post rather sweet and touching.
Its nice to think that romance isn't dead.
to coin a phrase, its like riding a bike. riding being a key word.
the big question is, Do YOU feel its too soon? do you want to talk it slow with him or are you crawling out of your skin and juts want to jump his bones?
theres no rules written in stone as to how this is to happen, if you feel its right. then hey go for it. you only live once. if not.. then see how it goes you have a life time to work on it.
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