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writes:Dear cupid I'm a 26 year old guy and i've developed feelings for this 19 old girl that I'v known since she was 10 years old. The thing is I'v known her three brothers for years they are not close friends but I'v always had a good understanding with them. Her mother and step father hav always liked me and she's friends with my 18 year old sister, they in the same school and they use the same transport. I know most of her family and relatives and a good relationship with them. She has been fancy me for quit sum now and I strongly feel attracted to her. She has been sending so many signals even wen I'm her brother she'll greet me from a distance she asked me to walk her home because it was dark , now I'm affraid she'l get tired and give up. Now the thing is that I'm affraid her fam will be over protective since I'm 7 years older, wont I look like a creep. I just want 2 no wat I'm letting my self into. What should i do Reply to this Question
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reader, KoreanMexicanLolita  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 Both of you are legally adults, so it's technically okay. But just to be safe, make sure you have good intentions, and ask her parents' permission. But honestly, I don't think you should worry about "looking like a creep". Here's a little perspective: I myself am dating a man older than me by 14 years "and change". There, your love doesn't seem so scary now, does it? Just be good, okay?
~God bless you!~
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2014): Hi,
I don't think it's weird. I met my husband when I was 21 and he was almost 28. We got married the following year and have 2 beautiful children. I also did know him when I was 12 and he was 18, although we were just family friends. When we met later on in life, we just hit it off. Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 July 2014):
 I'll give you the other side of the coin
when my husband was 19 (and I did not know him) I was 32.
19 and 26 is a bigger gap that 29 and 36. Same time but the maturity at 19 may not be there for the young lady.
I would suggest that if you are TRULY interested in her as a person... that you try the "old school" courting method. Pretend it's 1950.
go to her parents and ask permission to ask her out. Spend time with her and her family let them get to know you...
NO physical contact for the first few months....
only dates in public places....
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2014): Honestly, when I was nineteen I still had the mindset of a seventeen-year-old. I may have been more mature and knowledgeable, but was still very inexperienced. Most people do not fully mature and get their lives together until their mid-twenties.When this girl was 10, you were 17. Now she's 19 and you're 26. People would have good reason to be uncomfortable. The fact she's friends with your eighteen-year-old sister kind of adds to that discomfort. She's one year older than your sister. Would you date your sister's friend? Think of it that way. I'm just putting things into perspective for you. The relationship could work out or it could be a disaster. Once you initiate and her family finds out, if they respond negatively, you kind of ruined it. If they respond positively and are supportive, then good for you. It's a risk you have to take.
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