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anonymous
writes:Hi good people! I am 36 years old, my fiance, 72years old. He is visiting me in a weeks time. I have started developing cold feet because of the age difference. I am constantly worried about the impression this will have on people who know me. I mostly don't give a damn about people's opinions, but this is different. This is my hometown and I carry myself very respectfully. No-one will understand how I can go out with a man older than my dad. I love him, and if we were to remain indoors through the entire visit, I would be very happy to have him over. But then, this is not possible. When in his country, I am more than happy to engage in outdoor activities with him, because people there don't know me, so I don't really care about what they think/say. The kids who live in my apartment complex can be naughty....i am worried that they will make fun of my daughter (6yrs old). She has already proudly informed them that her dad is coming to visit. Please give me your opinion about this. Ticket has not been booked yet.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (10 August 2016):
You said you love him...do you really?
Do you only love him when things are as you would like them to be? Or do you love him for the man that he is? Does he treat you right? Does he treat your daughter right?
Funny...Your daughter is only 6 years old, and shows the true nature of love....
"She has already proudly informed them that her dad is coming to visit."
She is loving first before judging.
"I do not judge as people judge. They look at the outward appearance, but I look at the heart.”
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (10 August 2016):
 Why do you love him?How did you meet him?What country is he from?Where will you live when you're married?How long have you known each other?Ultimately, people will know you when you're together for the rest of his life, so you'll have to just accept the judgements and ignore them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 August 2016):
 You are just at that age where you will figure out that not worrying about what others think is very freeing.
IF you love him and you are happy then enjoy it. Opinions are a dime a dozen the only ones that matter are yours and his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2016): You have to not care what people think and do what makes you and your daughter happy.Please do not hide him or be ashamed.if you act ashamed of him what is your child going to think of her dad?Be happy live your life for you not for others.
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