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writes:Please help, im nearly 31 and im still a virgin! i hate it, been dating my bf for a while now and im constantly making excuses to avoid sex, i havent told him im still a virgin and i cant cause im too embarrassed, we did try to have sex but he couldnt even get it inside me so i made an excuse to stop. He's caring and loves me deeply but i feel ill never be able to give him sex. Should i just leave him so he can find another partner to have a loving sexual r'ship with? please help im so unhappy with myself. XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2006): that is wonderful baby, just talk it out with your bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2006): hey - relax.
talk to him about it. People aren't monsters! If he's stayed with you he obviously likes you regardless of sex. In this sense you are a very lucky person!
Don't feel pressured - but when you are ready just talk to him about it! i'm sure you'll both come to a healthy conclusion ;)
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reader, cambos2006 +, writes (8 September 2006):
I think you could get some practise in first with say some toys or/and escort
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reader, gladyz +, writes (5 September 2006):
hey sweety, relax' you dont have to worry anything. he is a man and why not let him know that youre still a virgin' guess some man is proud to know that they are the first man in the life of their love one and you too' youre gonna be proud of that, so if you really love this man and you two will get married someday i think that is the best gift you can give to him. goodluck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): i have recently experienced this dilemma, i built up the courage to tell my bf about my lack of experience, we tried to have sex but i was too tight, so we left it, then a week later we tried again very gently and he managed to get inside, it was a huge relief for me!
if you truly want him to be the one, you should feel comfortable in telling him your a virgin! although he may be thinking this anyway as you were tight! if he really cares he will understand! you shouldn't punish youself like this! i have been there! its not worth it!
honesty is the best policy! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): Before you call it quits with your bf, it does sound like an emotional reason or some form of anxiety that’s causing this problem for you. Just up and leaving your relationship, will likely cause your bf deep hurt because you are forgetting, that he cares deeply for you, in the heartfelt sense. That's unfair to him so give yourself credit for being an outstanding and lovable person, irregardless of the sexuality problem. Don't allow this to erode your spirit, hun. Be strong and get proactive. Let your bf know you are going to get help and ask for his support. I bet he'll be there to help walk you through this--someone you can lean on. Talk to your GP to rule out anything medical. Your GP should then be able to give you some referrals to a counsellor or sex therapist can help you to deal with underlying worries. Sex therapists offer help to people with sexual problems. They are trained counsellors or healthcare professionals who have done extra training in the physical and emotional issues linked to sex. And please remember, sex therapists have heard of every type of problem before, so they won’t judge you or cause you to be embarrassed. Each session is completely confidential. Do this for both of you. Stay emotionally close to your bf, keep the love and solidarity strong between you both--cuddle, be affectionate as much as possible and most of all, keep a positive attitude. Give your doctor a call. Good luck, dear.
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