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writes:I am a 17 year old girl in a long-term relationship (1 year) with a 20 year old male. I cannot work out what I want - I love my boyfriend deeply but I am not sure if being in the relationship is what I want anymore.I have been sick for a long time and homeschooled all my life. I haven't had many friends and my boyfriend is the only relationship I have had. (The only way I know him is he is a family friend!)Recently I have started going out more - nights out with my older sister and her friend. It is now that I realise what I have been missing. Having men flirt with me and want me makes me feel wonderful, and being in a relationship feels like I am restricted. I don't want to sleep around or anything like that - I just want to feel like a teenager.I try and try to explain to my boyfriend but he doesn't understand at all. We have agreed to be "on a break" and I'm allowed to date others, but he told me that if we do he will hate me! So it doesn't feel like a break at all.I have found myself giving my number to other men. I currently have two genuine, nice men (one 24, the other 25) offering to take me out for dinner etc.I suppose I have a couple of questions.Should I go?andShould I stay in my relationship?I don't feel it's fair on my boyfriend or me, but I just don't know what I want more: him, or the experience.
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reader, mustaine6 +, writes (2 July 2008):
your 17! what the hell are u giving your number to 25 year olds for! thats not what teenagers do!
let me define britsh teenage life thesedays for you (i'm one of 'em):
- Pretending to be drunk then actually getting drunk and saying you regretted it (this regret can range from sleeping with a twat to taking drugs).
- Being under a sh*tload of pressure to fit in.
- Heartbreak.
- Losing all the things that are important to you eventually.
Some would disagree, but I am telling you the above is true. is it really worth throwing away a year long strong relationship for? if ya want my advice, get more spicy with your bf, when you go out, take him with you! You can act like a teenager with him you know, cos theres nothing more teenage than being in love.
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (1 July 2008):
 Young people have been asking themselves if they should stay, or if they should go, for thousands of years. Recent epistemological advances have given modern people a huge advantage by reducing the consideration to a very compact form.
Q.
Should you stay or should you go now?
A.
If you go there will be trouble.
If you stay it will be double.
So there you have it.
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