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writes:Ok guys I know this may seem a little extreme or even stupid, but I am 17 and I want a baby. I have always been obessed with children and in my household sex before marriage is frowned upon. I had sex between 7-10 times and I've been trying to get pregnant so bad. I know if I get pregnant my whole family wil hate me. . I am a A student and have been all my life and I know these decision will affect everyone and I'm aware. I don't what I should do b/c if I don't do this I would be going against something that I really really want. Tell me what is the best thing for me to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): im 17 also, and for the past few months all i have been thinking about is having a baby. However, i had the implant in my arm and had it took out not just because of this but it was causing problems, but since i have had it out its made me think about having one. But i dont know how long it takes to become pregnant after having it took out. good look anyways. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): hi i know what you mean i really want a baby i have always wanted one but sometimes you have to make sure that you are ready for one. And you also need to make sure that you can support it in every way but i always belive if its what you want then no matter what anyone says you will do it any way i hope it all goes well for you
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 July 2009):
 Think about this - do you really want a baby coming into a family where your parents think of him or her negatively and are condemning you for having a child? Not only will that be rough on you, but it will make a happy relationship between your child and parents really difficult to have. Don't you want your child coming into a positive, happy family and in great circumstances? You will need all the support you can get when you have a child - a good, steady father and helpful, understanding, enthusiastic parents. If you get stuck raising a child by yourself without any help, say goodbye to your life, ambitions and goals.
Children are WONDERFUL, no doubt about it. But having one will set you back and you'll never get the chances available to you again. Your straight A's won't matter without a college degree, and attending university without parents who can babysit or a father who can stay home will be almost impossible - if not very, very challenging. I also hope you have health insurance because a baby is SOOOO expensive. Just having the child - just the labor part, can run you 10-15 thousand dollars! If you have a major savings account, then you might be okay.
You are playing with fire and I hope that you can get your head back on straight and really think of the consequences for you and the baby. And your life! You deserve to live it before giving it up for another life... set an example for your future child and instead of having him or her before you're ready, get your life - financially, romantically and educationally - in order and THEN work on making the family! That way parenting can be fun and joyful instead of an endless struggle.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (5 July 2009):
 omg. im 14 and i want a baby too. and i know thats sooooooooo young, but after i held my new baby cousin i wanted one soooooooo fricken bad. but really i think if u do have a baby, its exaustting. and u wont have anytime for fun things in the world. becuz for a couple of years, the baby will be nothing but trouble and ur whole life. :/ so idk. think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2009): You are the same as me! im 17 and have gone completely baby mad.i think its maybe the hormones and i know myself even though i want a baby i wont because of the fact i cant handle one financially and the fact im not ready to be a mum yet.i want to do other things first and finish college.i think you need to think about these things:
1.are you ready financially to handle a baby alone or is the father sticking around?
2.do you really want to give up your student life just now rather than later?
3.you can have the baby after student life when you have qualifications,youre older and can handle the baby.plus with better qualifications means better job meaning more money!
4.youve done all what you want to do! you may think that you can do all these things later but not for at least 6 years unless youd like to leave your kid at home and have someone who will look after it.
a baby is a HUGE responsobility and i know how you feel.
email me if you want to chat more
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reader, Miss Karma Louise  +, writes (5 July 2009):
well i love children myself i wouldnt say i was obsessed though that sounds a little wrong,why dont you do some kind of child care course like myself..i get to work in a primary shcool 3 days a week with 5 year olds and i cannot wait to do it profesionally.
now you also must take in to consideration that a baby will grow into a toddler and a toddler will grow into an older toddler and so on..
maybe you could take up a baby sitting job at weekends that way your earning money for doing something you love.
id wait untill i found the right man .
i have a freind who had a baby at 15 and she says often despite how much she loves her son and how proud she is of him shwe wishes that she had been setteled and had found a job she lives in apokey little flat in some site and belive you me she is struggling.
think about the consiquences!
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reader, quarky +, writes (5 July 2009):
 There are lots of single parents in this world who manage fine-thing is they usually have the support of family and friends. If that is an issue for you then you need to think carefully about being dependant on state benefits for a good while.Do you have any idea what it will be like to have a child? How much commitment it will take?getting pregnant is the easy bit. Rearing kids ain't so easy. sleepless nights, screaming, putting them first 100 % of the time-putting a hold on your life.you also have to think about the father, from what you say, you want a baby, not a partner. So what happens to the dad when you have your child?I'd suggest you speak to mums -especially single mums and learn more about what you think you want first.And until you do, practice safe sex.
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