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writes:Hi im 14 and me and my gf have been going out for a month now and she is really really shy i dunno whether it was the fact that we used to be friends before we went out or what but all my other friends kiss and hug their gf's. but also during conversations when i bring things up about us it'll be huh what are you talking about and change the subject in an instant. this is really getting to me and i dont wanna break up with her any tips.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Some people are quite shy when it comes to a relationship.
It may seem really annoying at the moment, but eventually she will open up, she probably really likes you and doesnt want to mess anything up. dont worry about what your friends do/think/say. Its most likely they rush their girlfriends into things neither of them want to do, and you arent one of them, so well done! She obvisously wants to be with you, but it nothing happens in the next few weeks, you may want to do something about it. Im not sure if the serious chat is really working, it sounds like you are scaring her off slightly (!) so maybe if you sutley move a bit closer to her, when watching a dvd or just sitting talking, wait for the right moment, then just lean in and kiss her. If she pushes you away or whatever, i would suggest leaving it a week, then having a proper chat with her. Maybe explain that shes getting you down, you dont want to rush her, and you just want to be with her,you would really like to get more comfortable and be affectionate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): It sounds like it was a big step for your gf to go from friend to girlfriend so I think you should give her more time to get comfortable with the idea.
Don't bring it up any more, don't mention that all your friends do it, just be happy being friends, and when you are being funny and playful, she she will naturally open up to you and feel ready.
Give it that more time and make sure she doesn't feel expected to do anything, but if after that time nothing changes, then speak up, but instead of telling her what she's doing wrong, say that you feel sad because you want to be able to hug her and be affectionate with her and you're not sure if she wants the same thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Wait a couple weeks, she may need some time to get used to certain topics. But don't wait too long.
Or try sitting her down and talking to her. Telling her how you feel about how shy she is. She probably really likes you and doesn't want to mess things up.
My boyfriend and I were friends for about half a year before we started dating and it took me a couple of months to open up to him.
I hope I was any help, good luck!
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