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writes:Okay, well i met this boy he just turned 17 and i really like him, im only 14 and my parents say hes to old. my mom has met him, but they dont know that i like him, i have no idea how to tell them. They just wont understand because they think all we will do is have sex, thats not what it is. What am i supossed to do , i cant just forget about him? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): My elder sister was 14 and dated an 18 year old. He was one of the nicest people I have ever met.
It didn't last, of course. But it ended on good terms. And he was and is a family friend til this very day. He was even on our bowling team long after they ended.
You cannot generalise things.
That said, its still risky territory. So long as no sex is going on, you should be fine.
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reader, emilia_shayner +, writes (15 July 2010):
Age is just a number...but it's too bad that the law doesnt see it that way...My boyfriend is 18 and im 16, so believe me im on ur side. I think that u shud remind ur parents that they raised u well and that u are trustworthy and that if u want to date him than u want to date him. They cant control every part of ur life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): It is not just a problem if all you do is have sex. You are not 17 yet and a lot of important stuff usually goes on between now and then, sex and otherwise. You are at two different stages mentally.
If you were 24yo and he was 27yo it would not be a problem. But 14 and 17 is a different situation, like it or not.
Just because you are mutually attracted and have some fun & closeness together that does not mean the differences between you and him will not cause problems sooner or later.
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reader, Behkay +, writes (14 July 2010):
 I went through the exact same thing! When I was 14, I fell in love with an 17 year old. The only difference in our situation is that not only did my parents think he was too old but he also though age was an issue. Long story short, it took eight months for him to realize that age wasn't an issue and we've now been together for two years and nine months :).
It would take a while for you parents to get used to it but if it really is their dieing wish that you don't date anyone older, I say wait. During the eight months I waited to be with him I slowly talked my parents into the idea of me dating someone older. I've never dated anyone my age or younger because my maturity level is just different.
My honest to Bob answer to this is to wait. Your young and it's not going to kill you to wait. Plus, your parents are probably just concerned. Just wait and see how things go. I promise everything happens for a reason :).
-pelanchita.
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reader, missconfused101 +, writes (14 July 2010):
 I have been through the same situation. When I was 13 I ended up falling in love with a 16 year old. You are going to have to have serious talks with your parents. Ask them questions! For example: "If I were 24 and he was 27, would it matter then?" Try and make them understand. You will have to gain their trust so that they believe you arent just with him for sex. Maybe start wearing a purity ring. It took me weeks to get my parents to allow it. Keep having him over and let your parents get to know him more. I wouldn't be all over each other in front of them either. I hope this helps! Best of Luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): In some states of the United States, 17-year-olds are considered adults on the sexual level. If you're truly worried about your parents' reaction to you dating an older boy, you should consider not dating an older boy. If you do, and your parents do not approve, he could face criminal charges for things like child molestation and statutory rape. These kinds of charges could put him in prison for up to and more than ten years.
Here's the deal: You're 14. There are so many boys your age out there who would be lucky to date you. You're also 14 and have so many years left to date! Don't get your heart all wrapped up in some 17-year-old boy, who is, honestly, too old for you. If you're worried about not being able to forget him, keep yourself busy. Do hobbies you like or hang out with your girl friends instead.
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