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writes:Ok i need help!!! im 13 and never benn kissed. And everyone else i my school has already have a boy-friend . Ok this guy i like him but my best friend likes him too!! but i think he likes me not her .... and the way i know it is because he comes into the girls bathroom to say hi but.......hes shy i know him since kindergarden......Please give me advice on how to kiss!!!Thanks
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reader, katyayni  + ♥, writes (5 November 2009):
 HiHey, it is not unusual for a girl to be kissed slightly late in life. They often make up for the lost time. Also, hate to say it darling... but if you really think that this guy likes you and not your girlfriend, then let HIM choose. It will be clear soon. There are too many guys around that age (and older ones too) that just flirt with a girl (and all of her friends) to feel good about themselves. Very common, quite callous and taking all of this seriously will be foolish in the highest extent. So, wait for it. Make that guy come to you. If he feels a strong enough attraction, believe me, he will be jumping through the hoops and fighting the army to get to you. Now, advice about kissing... well, first you lean in to the guy.. slightly and make him come to you. Now just kiss softly on the lips. Then break away and look into his eyes. Then lean in and part your lips slightly and kiss each other.. like softly. Keep your lips relaxed and easy. You know, how to be the best kisser? It is to kiss the man that you are actually in love with. Also, the best way to acting relaxed is to actually BE relaxed. And, for that to happen, you have to just let it all happen, slowly if you must. Don't rush anything in life, especially love. And kissing! And, honey, Listen to Duce about the advice about never letting a man interfere with your friendship. After living that long, we realize that men are simply not as satisfying, available, reliable, fulfilling and familiar as a girlfriend. And, keep this rule throughout your life, because it will be one thing that you will be facing forever. Also, remember, if a man wants you, make him work. He will respect you more if he has actually earned you. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-it-is-important-for-him-to-earn-your-love.htmRead this okay. And, I hope that you get your perfect kiss.. but remember that it isn't at the cost of your friendship. Lots of loveKeep us posted.
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reader, duce00 + ♥, writes (5 November 2009):
 OK... I know you don't want to hear your dad talking down to you on this site but there are a couple things that may at least keep you from getting started on the wrong foot as you start to interact with boys.
First off boys don't belong in the girls bathroom. Would you want a boy you did not like checking you out while you were doing your chick stuff? Pretty uncool right?
Second thing is: Don't burn your girlfriend because you think you understand this situation. Trust me, this boy probably wont be the guy to say "I do" and get old and crusty with you. Your girlfriend actually may be your friend for life. I have a friend that Ive been super tight with since we were 6 years old...that's 33 years of solid reliable friendship. We have saved each others rear ends more times than you can imagine and we were the best men at each others weddings. We never messed with each others significant others EVER no matter what. Boys will come and go for many more years...friends can be for life.
As for the kissing...make sure that any physical contact with a boy is done for reasons that are not about insecurity. Don't do it just cause others are, or you want to fit in. I remember 13 and this advice would probably have zipped right over my head. What did not zip over my head was seeing the problems and mistakes that girls in high school made. Broken hearts, lost friends, bad names, pregnancy...all that stuff was the result of insecure girls making poor choices and trying to be accepted.
I know this may not have been the magic bullet you were looking for, but really it is. What I have told you will prepare you much better than a lesson in kissing when it comes to boys.
Sorry if I sound too fatherly but I am just trying to pass on some REAL LIFE experience that will make you happier, more popular, and a real catch of a young lady as you start learning how to deal with boys.
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