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36-40,
*canfixit
writes:Background:===========I've been with this girl for 2 months now. She is not willing to have sex. We escalated from occasional makeout to frequent makeout sessions. Then, she reduced it all completely.I discussed it with her. She said she is not in the mood these days and she needs some time. She mentioned she is under stress from an upcoming exam, 4 months from now. I talked with her nicely, expressed that my sexual desires are killing me. I also did the bad guy for some time and pressured her. But her upcoming exam is really terrifying- I know it.Well, I'm kinda disappointed. I'm extremely nice. I do everything to please her. We are really getting along very well. She mentioned several times that I'm close to her heart, and she generally acknowledge me as a very nice boyfriend.But finally, after going through a lot of online posts about similar situations. I started to realized that I should give her the time, and wait- if I don't want to lose her. Okey, I got it, women are different when it comes to sex.So far so good. I'm waiting with hope that she needs the time and will try her best- as she said. Now, my sexual desires are killing me on a daily basis. I like her, I think she's very sexy. I am attracted to her. She is around me a lot and I'm just turned on all the time. Every night I have to face the fact that I'm not getting any sex. My testerone is just pressuring me so much.My Question:============How can I cope with this? I masturbate once a day. But still, can't get sex off my mind. Whenever I spend time with her, the desire crushes me. I don't want to stay away from her. And I'm quite confused what to do? Any advices?[sorry for the long post.]
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reader, icanfixit +, writes (18 August 2010):
icanfixit is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI will try to control my urges and wait. Thanks!
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (15 August 2010):
 Let her get the exam out the way and get the result too.
Dont pressure her, she is not ready for sex and you could scare her off.
Try masturbating more frequently and try and control the urge to cheat on her if you think anything of her.
If she is still making excuses later on then maybe she has other issues but dont assume the worst. Try speaking with her without mentioning your own desires.
Its that point where you need to decide if you want to continue or move on.
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