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writes:I would love opinions from everyone but especially want a male point of view. My partner of 2 years left me a few weeks ago to sort through some issues he has. If i leave him alone will he miss me and come back? Will contacting him really cause more damage? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Friend Tom  + ♥, writes (24 October 2007):
I agree. Let him have the time and space. You say you were on good terms, so my guess is that the problems he needs to work out are not related to the relationship, but private. It may be about job or family matters. Something he just hasn't felt like talking with you about, yet.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (22 October 2007):
 He says he has got to go away to sort out some issues he has, so let him do this and give him the space he needs to do so. I think he will think alot more of you if you don't call him, i think if you go calling him every 5 minutes leaving messages ect he will get annoyed. I know its hard, and you feel you need to know where you stand, but as i say the best advice i can give is to give the space and maybe call him, or email him in a couple of weeks.
Take care & good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should have phrased it better. We didnt part on bad terms. He just needs time.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (22 October 2007):
 The way you phrased your question makes me wonder if he told you to leave him alone, or you would cause more damage. If that's what he said than he believes something is your fault. Of course, I have no idea ... but if I told someone to give me space and he/she did not, I would feel that a very simple need was not valuable enough to be honored.
*sigh*
We females, though ... we have this belief that if we use just the right words, everything will be understood and smoothed out ... because we're communicators. When we can't do that, it's as if someone has cut our hearts out with a plastic butter knife. =( I am so sorry ... you sound like you're really hurting. I know it will all work out for the best ... be brave but go ahead and be sad. Best wishes.
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