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writes:I'm turning 16 this year and the guy is turning 20. I met this guy 3 years ago through a friend, I didn't know who the guy was at all then later found out he had the same last name as I did. I didn't think anything of it at the time, but started to have make out sessions with him. I'm not sure how we are related but I do have an idea he is in fact my cousin. We have been messing around within the 3 years on and off and seeing other people but recently I decided that he would be the first person I had sex with and of course he was really experienced. We used protection but the condom broke which we didn't have the slightest idea when it happened. If I happen to become pregnant I feel that I'll be ashamed to tell close family who the father is.What should I do? Will a baby with him as the father, be okay?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Wow, thanks so much for all you're peoples advices and what to and what not to do. I've just got to say its been what now? nearly 2 months since I wrote this first entry, Oh by the way, I'm the girl who did sleep with my "cousin".. I did find out that even though we do have the same last name that we are so far away from being related such as 1st, 2nd, or third cousins. I am pregnant. I haven't told anyone except the father and of course he is going to be there for the baby and I the whole way. Next step is telling the parents, I have no idea what they're going to say but if they are in any way feel the same way we do about this, this baby will be loved more than anything that could be imagined. I'm scared but I have thought about what I'm going to do about it, and hope for only the best that nothing will come in the way of this. I will try, if I can, to keep checking in. But thanks again for everyone who gave their thoughts and opiniona, and those people who I've actually came into contact with!!!
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reader, love-him  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 Hey hon, find out if he is your cousin first, ask around your family and ask him for details of his family etc. Where you say "and of course he was really experienced" i am guessing you mean this towards his age.. That's not exactly how all men are, my boyfriend of 2 years, was a virgin until 20.. take a test at least 1 - 2 weeks after and then if the answer is yes, start thinking ahead. Mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (28 February 2008):
 You have not come to the bridge yet ,so no point thinking that far.
What if you are not pregnant ? It will just be an exercise in futility.
Did you have sex 7 days before and after your first day of period? If it is more than 7 days then you will not be pregnant.
If you are really unlucky , there is no way to tell if the baby will be abnormal .Scans may give you some info but they don't tell the complete picture .
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Hi Hunny
This must be a distant cousin as if it were your first cousin it would be your mums siblings child or your dads and you would have been more aware, Anyway thats besides the point... im sending you a pregnancy advice link and cousins do get married and have children, its not always advisable I guess but it happens, I would definatly get some helpfull advise from a doctor love to pop your mind at rest looking after a little one is hard work sweetheart so if you need a chat message me...
http://www.cowandgate.co.uk/en/static.asp?mode=pregnancy_club&ppc=GGL%2Cpregnancy_club?utm_source=Google&utm_medium=PPC
You wont need all that gobblydegoop just the first few lines it advise on pregnancy to help you hunny and get that ap booked for the doctor and you should speak with your parents love TAKE CARE WITH LOVE AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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