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writes:Ive been seeing this guy for a year now, on and off. When we are together its great and I love him to bits. But one thing is bugging me. He has his relationship status as single on his facebook and when I ask him why he just shrugs it off and says he will change it later. He never does. So tonight we were texting and he said that he wanted to be with me properly, no more falling out, and I replied with if thats the case then please remove your single status off your page. And he hasnt replied to me. Nor has he removed it. What should I do? If hes too reluctant to show his family and friends that hes not single anymore then why should I bother with him? I know some people think that its petty but to me it isnt - he is basically classing himself as single to everybody yet expects me to act like a girlfriend to him. He doesnt even have to change it to 'in a relationship.' I just want him to remove the single! Its driving me mad!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2011): "Ive been seeing this guy for a year now, on and off"
Yeah well it's still on and off OP. It's that simple.
Look if a person says one thing but their actions say another what's the truth? It's the actions isn't it?
He doesn't want to be serious with you OP and he never has. It's all just words but he still won't commit. He says he wants to be with you properly but without the status change that's just bullshit isn't it?
It's not petty at all OP, it's a simple request to make it public that you are a couple, what he's doing is keeping himself on the market by telling everyone he's single.
That's a very bad sign and you have reason to be worried. So don't let him make a fool of you OP. Tell him simply you're not going to make it official until he's willing to go public with it. You want everyone to know he's your man and you want him to be proud to be with you. Words don't mean shit if the actions don't back them up.
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reader, synchrohobbit  +, writes (6 December 2011):
 I think you are completely right to be annoyed by this. You aren't asking for a "facebook official" relationship; you are asking him to stop blatantly advertising his bachelorhood. It certainly seems like he is trying to keep it open-ended so that if another girl does come along he can claim he was single the whole time. Do you know if your breaks coincide with him seeing other girls? This would indicate he is using you to fall back on...when he doesn't have someone come knocking at his door, he knows you will be there.It is promising that he has decided to commit himself to you. I hope he is just being slow in responding to the text message. If he said those things and still refuses to change it, I would start very obviously making yourself single on facebook and see how he feels about that.
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reader, Abella +, writes (6 December 2011):
 Could you please post your age - because it affects the answer and is important.
Aunts and Uncles need your age to better advise you
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