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anonymous
writes:My exboyfriend and i had a break up but we never really got closure. We still hang out and hook up every once in a while. He is "talking" to another girl and one day when we were arguing he said his feelings are stronger for her than they are for me. But he still always tries to talk to me and tells me he loves me and just cant stop talking to me no matter what. he said we are perfect for each other and doesnt want me out of his life. i will say anything and everything to get him to stop talking to me but he wont. He told me i dont know what love is and i shouldnt say it if i dont mean it. but the thing is that should be the other way around.. so i asked him what love is and he said our names. i dont understand him. if me and him are perfect for each other n he loves me n he said "we" are love then why arent we together?
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reader, xanthic +, writes (24 June 2010):
 I agree with CaringGuy and Marialatin, he's trying to keep you around as a backup plan in case it doesn't work out with someone else. Cut off all contact as soon as you possibly can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2010): Hey girl.. As I read this my eyes got wide and my mouth was hanging open. It literally could have been myself writing that entire thing. I just went through the EXACT same thing.. the whole new girl who he likes better, still says he loves me & we belong together, hooking up every once in awhile etc. Trust me, I feel your pain. It really hurts and it's SOOO confusing.
Almost a week ago I blocked his number, and blocked him from facebook. It's helping me to move on with my life and focus on more important things. We have to face it. If the guys loved us like they say they do.. there would not be another girl in the picture. Take this time to better yourself, heal yourself, and to take care of yourself. It's definitely not going to be easy.. I get urges to unblock him and text him occasionally but I feel that slowly over time it's going to get better and easier.
I really love my ex as I'm sure you do but we both need to keep everything in perspective and see that we are back up plans. Try to keep your head high and realize that someone someday WILL love you for you and won't put you through this heartache. Good luck & stay strong!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 June 2010):
You're being kept around as a Plan B to boost his ego. It's clear he doesn't' want you until he knows where he stands with other girls. Stop wasting your time with this guy and move on.
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