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writes: I am 35 and new to the dating game having always had LTR's with friends who have become boyfriends.I have recently met this man through the internet and we have been dating for roughly 2 months. I am 35 he is 42. We share similar values in life, share similar and different interests and both want to find a relationship with great sex within it. We started sleeping with each other 3 weeks into dating and are not sleeping with others. He's taken me away and the dates are always fun, the sex always amasing and we are still playing the dating game. We see each other once/twice a week. Though we get on, he is a difficult man and I can also be difficult at times, hense why we are both undecided about each other. At this point he wants to keep it as seeing each other...until he and I are more certain. This makes sense. My first question is, by seeing each other, does it means we are both free to meet other people? The irony is we both get jealous and upset that the other is meeting/dating others. He became especially upset when he found out I had been dating another on repeated occations. I have suggested we should go steady but he not ready. My next questions are,Surely he has no right to be jealous when he is not prepared to go steady?Is my repeatedly dating others (minus the sex) being cheap?Should I just not tell him what I am doing to keep him happy?How long is too long to wait for this man to make his mind up?
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (28 August 2005):
Hey, I'm only 21 and not in the dating game so I won't try to explain it. I just want to say that I don't think you're being sleazy at all, since you're only having sex with one guy. I think you should enjoy your single status and do whatever you want, whether the guy likes it or not, since he doesn't want to be exclusive now and may never.
"All that you need is in your soul" Lynyrd Skynyrd
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reader, closetfreak +, writes (28 August 2005):
girl plz move on with your life. life is too short to b worried about things like that. jealousy can lead to bad things and i know that you dont want that to happen get out now why you still can i learned the hard way dont make the same mistake i did
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2005): girl u need to dump him like a bad habit life is too damn short
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (28 August 2005):
 To tell you the truth...he does not have a right to be jealous. He is not up to making a comittment to you at this time and you guys are still seeing each other at this point...so what are you supposed to do wait to see if he can make up his mind? Suppose he doesn't or makes a decision not to what you want...you would have wasted lots of time just waiting! So no he should not be jealous at all. Secondly...how is dating others minus the sex being cheap? I admire you for not having sex with these people seeing that you are having sex with him already. That is really admirable. Has nothing to do with being cheap! The not telling him thing..I think that is just wrong. Maintain honesty in your relationship...at least you are laying your cards on the table and being straight with him...he can't stay he did not know what you were doing and you were being shady about anything. Let him hold nothing negative on you in case anything goes wrong. You are the one to decide when you are tired of waiting. Sex, having fun and stuff is nothing compared to real love and that deep affection shared with someone. If you want that and you are not getting it from this guy...then I suggest that you call it a day and move on. I don't believe in depriving yourself of anything in a relationship just to make the other party happy unless you are getting the same consideration in return. Girl..go out enjoy yourself to the hilt. If he does not realise the treasure he has in you..tough on him...his loss. Take care...ana
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